New Army Wife...My Husband Left For Basic :( - Military Boot Camp

samlynn1827 · 06-30-2007, 09:34 PM

I've been reading through all of your messages and I feel terrible even asking for advice on my problem because it seems so minor. But my husband and I have been together for 2 years married for 2 months and he left 5 days ago for basic for 9 weeks and than AIT for another 14 weeks. I have talked to him for maybe 30 seconds. Since I have met him we have been together everyday he is my best friend. Im having a very diffcult time coping with all of this. Does it EVER get easier. When he graduates and I go and see him for a day and than I have to leave him again for another 4 months is that just going to make it harder. We have a very strong relationship and IM not worried about us IM worried that I may not emotionally be able to get through this. Any advice on how to cope? Id appreciate it so much. Thanks and God Bless...

Nikki_D · 07-05-2007, 03:08 PM

My DH and I have been married 2 years now, and he's been deployed or TAD for half of our marriage. I don't think the separation gets easier, you just find other ways to deal with it. When DH is gone, I keep myself busy with schoolwork, hanging out with friends, and scrap booking (when I'm not working).

jlbecker · 07-05-2007, 03:26 PM

IT WILL GET BETTER.

definitely. hang in there, sweety. stay strong and stay busy.

we've been married 7 months and i've only spent about 3 with him....and he's about to leave for another 6.... curse the military, cry, and then find something to do!

hisjoker · 07-05-2007, 03:35 PM

i agree with them. DB is home 30 days a year, its hard. i hope you figure out what it takes for you because with everyone its different. some things work for somepeople but not others. i'll keep you in my prayers

07-05-2007, 04:44 PM

Yes it does get easier. By the time our fourth deployment rolled around I didn't cry so much. Now when he goes to the field I don't even hick-up. Just keep busy it will get easier.

Aurora · 07-05-2007, 05:05 PM

My guy just graduated bootcamp and it has gotten alot better in the 2 weeks he has been out. I'm sure with time things will get easier for you as well...bootcamp is tough for both people. Stay busy with things you enjoy doing and write him lots of letters! And listen to these ladies...they know alot and are so strong! PM me if you need anything.

*Annie* · 07-05-2007, 05:29 PM

You will make it! DH and I were married 2 years, Dh and I had our first child on Feb 3 and He left Feb 9 (2006) and he is still gone

Just keep yourself busy, cry~let your worry out, then find something else to do!

knockouttrish · 07-05-2007, 10:49 PM

It is hard at first, but you just have to keep reminding yourself that it is only 4 months and it will get easier.

And we're all here if you ever need to vent to us.

chelsea<3josh · 07-06-2007, 07:09 AM

it is very difficult, but with time it does get easier. never really better but easier. you have to keep yourself busy, set mini-goals, try to take one day at a time, don't look at the whole time he will be gone and think how long that is, think about it day by day. somebody once told me to count paydays not actual days. personally i have a calander that i mark everyday off on, it helps me feel better, one more down, one more day closer to seeing him again. and of course now you have us here at sos and the women here are wonderfully helpful, funny, and supportive.

keep your chin up you can do this!!

Gunnersgirl · 07-08-2007, 05:50 PM

I don't necessarily thik it gets easier, but I do think you learn to cope better with it. My suggestion is to stay busy go to work, school (whatever you do) and hang out with friends and just be there for him. Eventually you learn what helps make the time go by fast for you and what makes it easier to cope.

06-30-2007, 09:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
samlynn1827 Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Fort Bragg, NC Posts: 394 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 40%	New Army Wife...My Husband Left For Basic :( I've been reading through all of your messages and I feel terrible even asking for advice on my problem because it seems so minor. But my husband and I have been together for 2 years married for 2 months and he left 5 days ago for basic for 9 weeks and than AIT for another 14 weeks. I have talked to him for maybe 30 seconds. Since I have met him we have been together everyday he is my best friend. Im having a very diffcult time coping with all of this. Does it EVER get easier. When he graduates and I go and see him for a day and than I have to leave him again for another 4 months is that just going to make it harder. We have a very strong relationship and IM not worried about us IM worried that I may not emotionally be able to get through this. Any advice on how to cope? Id appreciate it so much. Thanks and God Bless... __________________ Mrs. Samantha Northway

07-05-2007, 03:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
jlbecker Damn, it feels good to be a gangsta Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 14,418 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 18% Longevity: 55%	IT WILL GET BETTER. definitely. hang in there, sweety. stay strong and stay busy. we've been married 7 months and i've only spent about 3 with him....and he's about to leave for another 6.... curse the military, cry, and then find something to do! __________________ ~ jamie

07-05-2007, 03:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
hisjoker He promoted me to girlfriend.... Join Date: May 2007 Location: I'm in Lancaster, He is stationed in Charleston but currently deployed! Posts: 1,512 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 42%	i agree with them. DB is home 30 days a year, its hard. i hope you figure out what it takes for you because with everyone its different. some things work for somepeople but not others. i'll keep you in my prayers __________________ Proud wifey of Alexis,LaDonna, and Missgirlintx

07-05-2007, 05:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
Aurora Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 5,712 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 19% Longevity: 45%	My guy just graduated bootcamp and it has gotten alot better in the 2 weeks he has been out. I'm sure with time things will get easier for you as well...bootcamp is tough for both people. Stay busy with things you enjoy doing and write him lots of letters! And listen to these ladies...they know alot and are so strong! PM me if you need anything. __________________

07-05-2007, 05:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
Annie Spoiled Wifey and Mommy Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 946 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 53%	You will make it! DH and I were married 2 years, Dh and I had our first child on Feb 3 and He left Feb 9 (2006) and he is still gone Just keep yourself busy, cry~let your worry out, then find something else to do! __________________

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07-05-2007, 03:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
Nikki_D Proud Seabee Wife Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 1,954 Classifieds: (3) Activity: 0% Longevity: 56%	My DH and I have been married 2 years now, and he's been deployed or TAD for half of our marriage. I don't think the separation gets easier, you just find other ways to deal with it. When DH is gone, I keep myself busy with schoolwork, hanging out with friends, and scrap booking (when I'm not working).

07-05-2007, 04:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
bunkie Guest Posts: n/a Activity: 0% Longevity: 0%	Yes it does get easier. By the time our fourth deployment rolled around I didn't cry so much. Now when he goes to the field I don't even hick-up. Just keep busy it will get easier.

07-05-2007, 10:49 PM	#8 (permalink)
knockouttrish Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Chesapeake, VA Posts: 1,018 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 8% Longevity: 56%	It is hard at first, but you just have to keep reminding yourself that it is only 4 months and it will get easier. And we're all here if you ever need to vent to us.

07-06-2007, 07:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
chelsea<3josh my heart is home! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Michigan Posts: 4,363 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 47%	it is very difficult, but with time it does get easier. never really better but easier. you have to keep yourself busy, set mini-goals, try to take one day at a time, don't look at the whole time he will be gone and think how long that is, think about it day by day. somebody once told me to count paydays not actual days. personally i have a calander that i mark everyday off on, it helps me feel better, one more down, one more day closer to seeing him again. and of course now you have us here at sos and the women here are wonderfully helpful, funny, and supportive. keep your chin up you can do this!!

07-08-2007, 05:50 PM	#10 (permalink)
Gunnersgirl I wanna lick the wrapper........ Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,485 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 56%	I don't necessarily thik it gets easier, but I do think you learn to cope better with it. My suggestion is to stay busy go to work, school (whatever you do) and hang out with friends and just be there for him. Eventually you learn what helps make the time go by fast for you and what makes it easier to cope. __________________