Life after training - how much did he change?

[PetesGirl97]

Question for the ladies who's S/O left then came back from Basic Training...how much different was he when he came back, if he was any different at all?

Before my man left he told me something that's been stuck in my head. He said he was worried how he would adapt back to "normal life" after being away for 14 weeks. I'm sure once he gets back it may take a couple weeks to adjust back to civilian life, but I'm just hoping he won't turn into too much of an asshole... Partly kidding about that, he's not that type of guy. I expect him to be a little different once he gets back and I don't mean this in a selfish way but I hope he's not too much different. I love him just how he is and don't want him to drastically change...

Anyhow, any advice would be nice

[AdaraMarie]

My SO is still in BCT, and I go and see him for family day really soon... I havent noticed a change when I talk to him, but in his letters I feel like he has really realized what I do for him as a wife and he has a new appreciation for me and his family. Not to say he was a bad husband, he's always been amazing to me... but seems like he has had this "ah-ha" moment about what family really means.

[TheSisterWife]

Not different at all.

Of course, both of his parents were also active duty Air Force, so he was pretty much raised like a recruit.

[Sabrina22LE]

My husband didn't really change much at all. I remember when we would write or call in basic he seemed different and I'm sure that was from stress or nerves. I spent the day with him when he graduated and he was very very reserved, but that went away.

[PetesGirl97]

Not different at all.

Of course, both of his parents were also active duty Air Force, so he was pretty much raised like a recruit.

Well that's good to know. My fiance was also raised in a military family. His dad was a lieutenant colonel in the Air Force, so he was pretty much raised like a recruit as well.

[TheSisterWife]

Well that's good to know. My fiance was also raised in a military family. His dad was a lieutenant colonel in the Air Force, so he was pretty much raised like a recruit as well.

Yeah, if it's something he's already pretty familiar with, I wouldn't anticipate a ton of major change. That said, people change all the time- he will, you will- you just have to make sure you're changing in the same direction.

[caljmw649]

He's more polite. Hes always been polite, but he says ma'am/sir when talking to EVERYONE. He's also more driven to get things done. School work and house work in general. Which I love cause he didn't help much with house work before basic. When he first got to AIT and had the weekends/evenings off he didn't know what to do. I would tell him to relax and do what he wanted. But he was so used to always doing something that he felt he might forget something or get in trouble. He got bored easily. But he got back to his normal self. Nothing drastic changed about him

[beccasarah]

The first day after graduation he felt awkward because he didn't know how to handle the freedom of liberty after not having it. But he hasn't changed at all other than that. He appreciates our relationship more, not that he didn't before, but that the distance makes it more special he says. I wouldn't worry! There's always an adjustment period.