Anxiety before your SO left for bootcamp - Military Boot Camp

ECourtney · 11-04-2009, 09:07 AM

DB doesn't leave for another 2 months, but I just can't shake this overwhelming feeling of anxiety. We've been together for 3 years, and spend nearly every day together. And I know it's childish and irrational, but somedays I just want to beg him not to go to bootcamp and end his enlistment. However, rationally I know that the U.S. Army is giving him opportunities he would have never been given in our small town, and that I benefit greatly from them. I know this is what's best for him, as well as our relationship, but I just can't help being selfish sometimes, and I know that is exactly how I am acting. Truly , I am grateful he took such a big step in his life, and is being braver than I could ever be. Did anyone else ever feel this way?

xofloridagirlxo · 11-04-2009, 09:16 AM

My DB left yesterday. And I'm not going to lie, it's hard. I've cried myself to sleep twice. I can't stop crying now, and ALL I wanna do is crawl into a hole until he comes home. But that's not something that I can do. And neither can you. I know that feeling of anxiety, and it probably won't just "pass", but as long as you know that he is doing what's right for him, you, and his country, it will be easier to deal with. Even just typing that out comforted me. Lol. Good Luck girl, and I'm here if you need to talk.

LovedByChance · 11-04-2009, 01:08 PM

I know exactly the feeling your talking about. For me, the anxiety was worse before he left than after. Don't get me wrong, i miss the hell out of him, but now, it's like, "Oh, this has actually happened, and I'm SURVIVING! Cool!" Before he left I constantly felt like

but now I'm living day to day, and it's very different, and there are lots of things that i miss, but writing helps, and being on here helps. It won't be fun, but you'll be ok.

mogaswife · 11-04-2009, 06:32 PM

Things get better girls! Just remember he wont be gone forever and this is going to make you a stronger person.

DH left Sept. 1st and I get to see him in 7days! I cant believe how the time flew!!

We are all here for you if you need to talk. PM me anytime.

ECourtney · 11-04-2009, 07:02 PM

You guys are the best, honestly.

Lilree16 · 11-04-2009, 07:39 PM

Originally Posted by mogaswife

Things get better girls! Just remember he wont be gone forever and this is going to make you a stronger person.

DH left Sept. 1st and I get to see him in 7days! I cant believe how the time flew!!

We are all here for you if you need to talk. PM me anytime.

YEAP same here!! =)
ull survive i promise. if i can u can!! pm me if u ever need anything.

xofloridagirlxo · 11-04-2009, 08:01 PM

Originally Posted by LovedByChance

I know exactly the feeling your talking about. For me, the anxiety was worse before he left than after. Don't get me wrong, i miss the hell out of him, but now, it's like, "Oh, this has actually happened, and I'm SURVIVING! Cool!" Before he left I constantly felt like

but now I'm living day to day, and it's very different, and there are lots of things that i miss, but writing helps, and being on here helps. It won't be fun, but you'll be ok.

Really girl?!@? I'm sooo shocked. Before he left I was kinda like.. "Ok, let's hurry up and get this OVER with" But now it is almost too much to ask for me to roll out of bed in the morning. It's killing me. Lol.

LovedByChance · 11-04-2009, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by xofloridagirlxo

Really girl?!@? I'm sooo shocked. Before he left I was kinda like.. "Ok, let's hurry up and get this OVER with" But now it is almost too much to ask for me to roll out of bed in the morning. It's killing me. Lol.

yeah, actually. lol. I almost feel bad about how much I'm not in terrible pain over this. I mean, if I sit and think about how much it sucks that he's not here (which it does!) then I get pretty upset, but if I just keep on with day to day life, and think about the fact that every day without him is one day closer to being back with him, I'm ok.

BabiiBluez · 11-05-2009, 05:00 PM

I totally know where you're coming from, girl. DF leaves beginning of January and I'm getting really upset thinking about how soon it is. We were talking about it when we were in bed last night and I started crying big time on the poor guy.

But, we'll get through it, I promise. As my DF put it; the sooner it starts, the sooner he'll come home.

ECourtney · 11-06-2009, 04:33 PM

Originally Posted by BabiiBluez

But, we'll get through it, I promise. As my DF put it; the sooner it starts, the sooner he'll come home.

That's the main thought getting me through. Mine's going to Ft.Benning, where is your DF heading?

11-04-2009, 09:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
ECourtney Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Tampa Bay, FL Posts: 50 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 22% Longevity: 4%	Anxiety before your SO left for bootcamp DB doesn't leave for another 2 months, but I just can't shake this overwhelming feeling of anxiety. We've been together for 3 years, and spend nearly every day together. And I know it's childish and irrational, but somedays I just want to beg him not to go to bootcamp and end his enlistment. However, rationally I know that the U.S. Army is giving him opportunities he would have never been given in our small town, and that I benefit greatly from them. I know this is what's best for him, as well as our relationship, but I just can't help being selfish sometimes, and I know that is exactly how I am acting. Truly , I am grateful he took such a big step in his life, and is being braver than I could ever be. Did anyone else ever feel this way?

11-04-2009, 09:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
xofloridagirlxo Patience is a virtue, waiting will not hurt you. Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Me: Pensacola. Him: Great Lakes. :( Posts: 265 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 59% Longevity: 5%	My DB left yesterday. And I'm not going to lie, it's hard. I've cried myself to sleep twice. I can't stop crying now, and ALL I wanna do is crawl into a hole until he comes home. But that's not something that I can do. And neither can you. I know that feeling of anxiety, and it probably won't just "pass", but as long as you know that he is doing what's right for him, you, and his country, it will be easier to deal with. Even just typing that out comforted me. Lol. Good Luck girl, and I'm here if you need to talk. __________________ It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now.

11-04-2009, 06:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
mogaswife I Love My Guardsman Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 499 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 33% Longevity: 11%	Things get better girls! Just remember he wont be gone forever and this is going to make you a stronger person. DH left Sept. 1st and I get to see him in 7days! I cant believe how the time flew!! We are all here for you if you need to talk. PM me anytime. __________________ Proud wifey to drobisbaby08, sestrada59, mrsgalloway, SgtLinnell'sGirl, LoveMySolider! and TayreehBakur

11-05-2009, 05:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
BabiiBluez Air Force Girlfriend Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Saginaw, Michigan Posts: 263 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 12% Longevity: 7%	I totally know where you're coming from, girl. DF leaves beginning of January and I'm getting really upset thinking about how soon it is. We were talking about it when we were in bed last night and I started crying big time on the poor guy. But, we'll get through it, I promise. As my DF put it; the sooner it starts, the sooner he'll come home. __________________

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11-04-2009, 01:08 PM	#3 (permalink)
LovedByChance Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: I'm here in P'cola, He's off to Great Lakes Posts: 100 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 44% Longevity: 1%	I know exactly the feeling your talking about. For me, the anxiety was worse before he left than after. Don't get me wrong, i miss the hell out of him, but now, it's like, "Oh, this has actually happened, and I'm SURVIVING! Cool!" Before he left I constantly felt like but now I'm living day to day, and it's very different, and there are lots of things that i miss, but writing helps, and being on here helps. It won't be fun, but you'll be ok.

11-04-2009, 07:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
ECourtney Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Tampa Bay, FL Posts: 50 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 22% Longevity: 4%	You guys are the best, honestly.