Already Gone Too Long

[Sparrow]

I guess this thread will be part vent & part asking for advice on coping. So forgive it if it seems too drawn out, or if half of it should really go in a different forum.

My boyfriend of almost 2 and a half years left for basic on 21 September, so it hasn't even been a full month since he's been gone. The first week he still had his phone, so he called me every day, but once he started the actual boot camp stuff, I've only gotten one set of letters from him. I haven't cried since the day he left, but now I've hit this horrible slump in coping with this.

I'm still getting used to waking up alone in the morning, & I miss having something to cuddle with. This is going to sound so ridiculous, but over the summer my family had to put my cat down, so I'm still dealing with not having that when I go home, either. I don't have anything beyond stuffed animals right now, & it's really hard.

I've been working on a show at school, so that's been helping keep my mind off of things a little bit, but I'm still in this terrible funk.

Also, I'm having this horrible mental dilemma of what to do for his graduation on 4 December. He's at basic at Ft. Jackson in SC, & I'm going to school in MN. I have no money to afford to go down to see him for that, though I could probably scrounge it together, one way or another. I wouldn't have to pay for a hotel because his parents are motor-homing down there, but I would have to miss class only a couple of weeks before finals & be back to school by Sunday, 6 December, at 1 for a band concert. Weighing that against him spending a year at AIT in Monterey, I would rather visit him for a week out there than for 2 days in SC. Especially since I could spend much more time with him out there.

People who have had someone graduate from basic, would that be acceptable? I can find the money to go out for a full week over the summer, when I'm not in school, plus, I can justify it better & look for random summer theatre gigs out in CA. What do you all think? Would it be more important to somehow find the money & work out stuff to go to his graduation, or opt for the other alternate of just going out to Monterey? I asked him in a letter, but I haven't gotten a response yet....

Sorry, this got sort of long, but I just needed to get it all out there. Advice, opinions, comforting words, anything would be accepted & appreciated.
Thanks, Mariya

[mkayf]

My DH graduated last summer(2008) from Ft. Jackson. I don't want to tell you what to do, but if you have the opportunity, I would definitely say go to his graduation. It is really a once in a lifetime experience. I wouldn't trade the memory of it for anything!
But I also understand if you can't... And I am sure he will too... Just see what he says about it all and go with your heart on the rest...

[jttigerbaby]

Ohh you should go to Monterey! It is beautiful and there is so much to do. We spend a year and a half there while my DH was in AIT. I didnt go to my husband basic graduation, he ended up having 2 weeks to come home after basic so it wasnt worth it for us.