ahh :( some advice please!

[CarLooSHoo]

Hey girls. I had a terrible night last night. My boyfriend is still in basic but he's been sneaking phone calls from his friends cell phone to me almost every night, and even though I'm afraid he's going to get caught and get in so much trouble, I can't complain. I love it when we talk for 2 hours a night . Anyway, last night we talked for over 2 hours about everything. We just kept saying cute little things like I miss you, I love you, ect. We also talked about marriage more and what we're going to do when he comes home. All in all, it was an amazing conversation. I got to bed feeling really confident and happy. I then get a text message from him about ten minutes later asking me who this guy was. I was confused so I called him and he told me that the cell phone he's on has internet access, so he went on his facebook to see my facebook and write on my wall to surprise me. He looked at the new photos I added (well not very new they were taken in October) and there was one picture of me and this guy I met here in my college just posing for a picture. I'm not going to lie, it wasn't a good pose but we weren't touching eachother at all. The only thing bad about the picture was that I had a vodka bottle in my mouth and I was SITTING right next to the guy. Nothing happened between me and this guy at all, he was just one of my other guy friend's friend and I was pretty much with my girls all night. It was just that one picture and that one stupid pose I did. He was sooo sad! He was very disappointed that I was out drinking with guys and stuff and he's a very jealous boyfriend. But the thing is, I did nothing to hurt him! Yes I did go out drinking, but I'm in college. In his mind he believes that when I get drunk I get lonely so I'm going to try to get with other guys, but that's not the case at all. I don't want any other guys but my bf. So he was very upset all night and I didn't sleep at all! He ended up hanging up on me and turning off the phone. I was so thankful that he called me this morning and we talked about it and I explained how sorry I was because I know it was a stupid pose and I know I shouldn't have posted it and I understand why he would be so upset because he didn't know the guy. I mean if he did that with another girl that I didn't know I'd be upset too. So everything is "ok" now, but he told me he doesn't trust me at all anymore. I don't think he even wants me to hang out with guys until he comes back. I think this is a little harsh because I really didn't do anything. He told me in a text that it feels like I cheated on him, and that makes me so sad because it was a stupid picture! Ahh I'm sorry. I just need some advice or something. I don't know what to do. I'm madly in love with this man and we were even getting engaged over Christmas break! Now he's doubting that all because of a picture. Is it because he's confined with a bunch of men and he's just so lonely that he wants me to be confined in my dorm all the time? I need help!

[tifflovezyou]

Put the shoe on the other foot. How would YOU feel if you saw a pic of him and another girl, out drinking? Would you flip? *I* personally would. But, im a jealous person. So, I don't do things that would piss me off to my SO. Don't beat yourself up though, just assess the situation and try to rectify it. Hes just worried your going to leave him. Im sure hes heard stories in boot, thats a given.

I personally, would try to figure out what was more important. Going out drinking with dudes, or my BF thats away at boot camp.

[*MarineBug*]

I am going to have to say that I dont blame him. I know my husband doesnt expect me to sit around but I also know he doesnt want me out partying and drinking vodka out of a bottle.(I wouldnt do it either way) You have to understand that he is away from hom and he doesnt know everything and that makes everything ten times worse. Avoid anything that you think will make him upset or if you think he is to controlling or what ever I would say you need to re think your relationship with him

[Jayo]

Why'd ya post the pic in the first place?
And of course he doesn't want to think that you are out having fun while "he's stuck in boot camp". But it does sound a bit harsh if you explained nothing happened and he hung up on you. How long have you two been dating before he left for BC? Sounds like a very young relationship and there is some maturing needed on both sides.
I wouldn't worry too much about it.....but I would worry more about him being caught on the phone. Being set back in BC means he'll be away from you longer. I know when my DH was a DI he was a badass, strict MF and he would enforce all regs harshly. If I were you I'd tell him to stop calling.....

[Caimbrie]

The whole picture mess aside for a minute... A cell phone in Basic? Him calling you almost every night and talking to you for hours? That makes no sense at all. When you get to boot they send EVERYTHING home.. so unless his friend had the phone in his butt it would have been sent home... and IF he did manage to get it snuck i there, how would they keep it charged without anyone seeing it? It's almost impossible for him to be able to talk every night, especially for hours without getting busted. There is something not right with that whole scenerio.

[Mosley04]

Originally Posted by Jayo Why'd ya post the pic in the first place? And of course he doesn't want to think that you are out having fun while "he's stuck in boot camp". But it does sound a bit harsh if you explained nothing happened and he hung up on you. How long have you two been dating before he left for BC? Sounds like a very young relationship and there is some maturing needed on both sides. I wouldn't worry too much about it.....but I would worry more about him being caught on the phone. Being set back in BC means he'll be away from you longer. I know when my DH was a DI he was a badass, strict MF and he would enforce all regs harshly. If I were you I'd tell him to stop calling.....

.... iknow its hard not talking to him(i only talked to my dh like 2 times) but if he gets caught.......thats lots of trouble he is asking for. about the other situation....i think that both of you should have a nice long talk about those issues, i mean its not like you cheated on him or anything, you just went out with some friends.

[mrskmw]

Originally Posted by Caimbrie The whole picture mess aside for a minute... A cell phone in Basic? Him calling you almost every night and talking to you for hours? That makes no sense at all. When you get to boot they send EVERYTHING home.. so unless his friend had the phone in his butt it would have been sent home... and IF he did manage to get it snuck i there, how would they keep it charged without anyone seeing it? It's almost impossible for him to be able to talk every night, especially for hours without getting busted. There is something not right with that whole scenerio.

I was wondering when someone was going to bring that up. Something just seems really really strange.

[Caimbrie]

Originally Posted by mrskmw I was wondering when someone was going to bring that up. Something just seems really really strange.

I was shocked that wasn't the FIRST thing mentioned honestly.. it makes no sense at all...

[mrskmw]

Originally Posted by Caimbrie I was shocked that wasn't the FIRST thing mentioned honestly.. it makes no sense at all...

I think people were tip-toeing around it. By the time I got to the bottom of the replies you had just posted yours saving me the trouble lol Maybe I'm off but it sounds like someone is full of it.

[rosebud*]

Originally Posted by Caimbrie I was shocked that wasn't the FIRST thing mentioned honestly.. it makes no sense at all...

Supposedly the army is allowing some cell use. I know some ladies had mentioned it on here. However I agree that this all seems a tad suspicious. Because there is no way he can be calling every night and talking for hours on end when I know that at boot they do all kinds of watches and things like that at night. So i don't know..