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    my boyfriend and i have decided to get court married in order to be able to live off base together. (we planned on getting married, but not this soon. we decided we wanted to move in together so we would have to be married in order to do so.) when we get the legal documents saying we are married, how do we go about showing them we are able to live off base together? do we have to be approved or are you automatically eligible to do so if you are married. how long does it take to be able to finally live off base? thank you so much!
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    my boyfriend and i have decided to get court married in order to be able to live off base together. (we planned on getting married, but not this soon. we decided we wanted to move in together so we would have to be married in order to do so.) when we get the legal documents saying we are married, how do we go about showing them we are able to live off base together? do we have to be approved or are you automatically eligible to do so if you are married. how long does it take to be able to finally live off base? thank you so much!
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    Please don't double post...Trust me, we'll see it.

    As for getting married and getting off base housing...depends. After you are married, you will take your marriage certificate in and you will get put on DEERS. After that, there is a check list to get his stuff switched over. I would say about 30 days notice he will need to give. He should check into it to see what is required. Some bases (not many) will require a certain rank to live on base married or not. Again, very few do that.

    I would think very carefully about getting married just so he could move off base. You guys could live together without being married, he just wouldn't get BAH for it. I would think long and hard first. Seems very rushed.
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    Definitely not a good idea to get married for the purpose of being able to live together. I know you said you plan or getting married one day, but it seems very rushed.
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    i double posted because i put it into the wrong category. thanks for the replies but i wasn't looking on input for the marriage part. shouldnt have to even explain myself. weve been together for 4 years, we know what we want. thanks though, dont need second mom
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    Your response shows your maturity.

    Once you get married, you will wait until you can get the official certificates, you'll go purchase official copies, you'll bring all of your paperwork and your official identifiers so you can get enrolled in DEERS and sometimes BAH comes in right away, sometimes there is a delay.

    Best of luck.
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    i am very mature for my age, regardless that is beyond irrelevant. it is rude as hell to say that i am rushing when you have 0 clue about myself, my boyfriend or out relationship. especially to someone that you dont know what so ever. asked for an answer to my questions, not motherly advice. but thank you once again
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    You don't have to explain yourself. You also don't get to dictate how other people post here, or what they say or respond to. That's the way message boards, and even real life conversations, work. And if your first thread here is full of attitude and snark, you aren't likely to get much help in the future.

    As for your questions, it depends on what you mean. As soon as he files the paperwork with the military on your marriage, he'll be allowed to move out *if* he is at a base in of a rank where that is allowed. (Not all married people at all locations are allowed to live off base.) However, it can take up to two month, or occasionally more, to actually see the housing allowance, so unless you can afford it without that, you are just going to have to be patient.
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    Quote Originally Posted by peytonsykes View Post
    my boyfriend and i have decided to get court married in order to be able to live off base together. (we planned on getting married, but not this soon. we decided we wanted to move in together so we would have to be married in order to do so.) when we get the legal documents saying we are married, how do we go about showing them we are able to live off base together? do we have to be approved or are you automatically eligible to do so if you are married. how long does it take to be able to finally live off base? thank you so much!
    Quote Originally Posted by peytonsykes View Post
    i double posted because i put it into the wrong category. thanks for the replies but i wasn't looking on input for the marriage part. shouldnt have to even explain myself. weve been together for 4 years, we know what we want. thanks though, dont need second mom
    Quote Originally Posted by peytonsykes View Post
    i am very mature for my age, regardless that is beyond irrelevant. it is rude as hell to say that i am rushing when you have 0 clue about myself, my boyfriend or out relationship. especially to someone that you dont know what so ever. asked for an answer to my questions, not motherly advice. but thank you once again
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