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    Hi all,

    Have a little problem that I hope you folks with a bit more experience can help answer. We're asking the "official" people but a lot of times the answers they give changes with who you talk to, so I thought I'd try to get another opinion here.

    In the next few months I'm going to get married to an active duty service member. I have a child from a previous marriage. I have full physical custody and joint legal custody with the biological father. The biological father is also active duty, but he will be leaving the service next year. Right now my child is covered under the father's TriCare and is obviously his dependent in DEERS.

    Would my new husband be able to add my child to his DEERS after the biological father leaves the service, so that my child can continue to be covered under Tricare? Does anyone have any idea what the processing/wait time would be for the transfer process? Would they literally just "copy and paste" my child from one sponsor to another? Or would they treat it as a totally new person? (Reason I ask is I'm curious if the medical history and referral history would be transferred)

    Also, after the marriage we are not planning on living together...mainly because my child has certain medical needs that would not be met at my new husband's duty station; currently EFMP 4, but would probably be EFMP 5 after file is updated with new medical information we just discovered. Is this going to factor into my new husband being able to claim the child as a dependent and register in TriCare?

    My new husband has no issues with adopting my child, but obviously he can't as long as the biological father still has legal custody. And I wouldn't hold your breath that he's going to sign over legal custody anytime soon. Once this set of medical issues calm down a bit or my husband is up for new orders (which wouldn't be for a while since he just got there), we of course plan on making the move, but it's not really a possibility in the near future.

    Thanks all.
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    Yes your new husband can add your child as a step child. My DH did with my two. He just needs the birth certificate and marriage certificate to show you to are married.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Solstice View Post
    Yes your new husband can add your child as a step child. My DH did with my two. He just needs the birth certificate and marriage certificate to show you to are married.

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    Yes, your husband will just have to enroll them in DEERS as his dependents and then in Tricare


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    Welcome!

    We never had any problems when DH enrolled my boys in DEERS.
    I honestly don't know how everything is transferred over but he will have a new sponsor ID so if your child remains with the same doctors, you would have to have them update it.
    I'm not to sure on that process though so hopefully others can give some more insight.
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    Thanks for all the responses so far.

    Our main issue is with all of the therapists and specialists and all, we want there to be as little lapse in service as possible. We're trying to consider if it's better to ask the biological father to take the child off his DEERS early before he gets out, or if we just sit around and wait until he's out of the service and DEERS automatically goes away, and then my husband can go in and enroll. Mainly, we just don't know how long it would be for the new DEERS registration to kick in, and therefore TriCare.

    Is there just a copy/paste button? Like can it just go from XXX-XX-XXX1/01 to XXX-XX-XXX2/01 with all the information intact?

    If possible we don't want it to be treated like we're enrolling someone who's never been in the system...the medical history on this kid is like 900 pages long, no joke. I had to have them print the entire medical file once because we were going to a non-MTF area. It's going to be an absolutely nightmare if the medical history is just wiped...O.o
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    I don't think that you'll lose any medical info. IT's there. They may create a second record under the new SSN but it will still be there.

    They definitely don't cut and paste. When I went from Active to Retired to Dependent, my info was all in the system, although I have two records so I always tell them to pull my info from MY SSN vice my DH's. You may run into that but that is something I would talk to your TRICARE support office about before you do anything.





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    Not to sound like an idiot but I'm just trying to understand...

    I have three from a previous marriage. My ex-H wont give up rights (not surprised and didnt think he would anyway), so DF cant adopt them after we are married. But after we are married, DF can enroll them into DEERS and get them put on TriCare?
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    Quote Originally Posted by BleedingBlack View Post
    Not to sound like an idiot but I'm just trying to understand...

    I have three from a previous marriage. My ex-H wont give up rights (not surprised and didnt think he would anyway), so DF cant adopt them after we are married. But after we are married, DF can enroll them into DEERS and get them put on TriCare?
    yes, step children that live in the home are considered dependants, they will be elegible for tricare and dental.
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    It's not a copy and paste button. I know when filling out EFMP paperwork and request for medical it asks if you've been in DEERS under another sponsor.

    You may be able to get reassigned if your DS is EFMP 5 and your new DH's duty station can't provide (at least if he's stateside). Definitely something to look into since stepchildren are considered dependents.
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