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    an someone explain EFMP?

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    Can someone explain in detail exactly what EFMP is and what the benefits are? Also, will my husbands promotions be affected because of this? Is anyone a spouse and an EFM, if so, how often has your spouse been stationed overseas without you?

    I am chemically sensitive and required to take sublingual drops daily, made in my specialists office. I sometimes go a year or longer w/o a doctor visit, because my levels are stable and all they do is mail the medicine to me. It is currently a 5hr. drive from my home to his office.

    My husband is upset that he will be made to go overseas w/o me for 2 years because of my condition. He doesn't even want to tell them and I told him he has too, correct?

    Can those that are the EFM spouse share your stories, of how it's affected your life and how many times your spouse has been stationed overseas w/o you? Were you able to visit them overseas and if so, how long and were you able to stay on base?

    I just need to explain to him more what this is about. When he in-processed, all the lady told him was, we would be stationed in one place and never moved so I could be near my doctor. Seems she left a lot of information out.
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    EFMP = exceptional family member program. It ensures that you are never stuck at a duty station where you will not be able to receive the health care you need.

    If you are planning on going overseas with him, you will have to have a health screening and that should be enough to disallow you to go with him (if he already knows that you won't be able to accompany him). If you lie on your paperwork or mislead the doc doing your check-up, your husband can get in serious trouble if/when that is found out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lisajolie View Post
    Can someone explain in detail exactly what EFMP is and what the benefits are? Also, will my husbands promotions be affected because of this? Is anyone a spouse and an EFM, if so, how often has your spouse been stationed overseas without you?

    I am chemically sensitive and required to take sublingual drops daily, made in my specialists office. I sometimes go a year or longer w/o a doctor visit, because my levels are stable and all they do is mail the medicine to me. It is currently a 5hr. drive from my home to his office.

    My husband is upset that he will be made to go overseas w/o me for 2 years because of my condition. He doesn't even want to tell them and I told him he has too, correct?

    Can those that are the EFM spouse share your stories, of how it's affected your life and how many times your spouse has been stationed overseas w/o you? Were you able to visit them overseas and if so, how long and were you able to stay on base?

    I just need to explain to him more what this is about. When he in-processed, all the lady told him was, we would be stationed in one place and never moved so I could be near my doctor. Seems she left a lot of information out.
    Your husband isn't the one who would tell them usually unless he is asking for a different assignments due to your medical requirements. Normally it would come up in your medical screening. Then a determination would be made as to whether or not they thought things could be handled while you were overseas.

    In todays age with the military trying to cut back on spending it can keep him from being retained if he refuses to take assignments. Maybe he can get switched to a 1 year unaccompanied tour.

    While they are overseas you can go visit for 3 months at a time. Your biggest issue is if he is living in the barracks you would have to stay in a hotel the entire time you were there since he would have no place for you to stay. Some bases have short term hotels which you can use if they are not full. Otherwise you would be staying on the economy. You would also have to eat all your meals out as you would not have kitchen facilities.

    On a positive note, I found that my sensitivities did not really bother me overseas as they did here. I think it was that they don't use as many chemicals in their foods as well as their cleaning methods. Perhaps if you get approved you would find the same thing.
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    My son is EFM because he was born missing his left hand. We had to fill out some paperwork and sent it back in. They will assign you a category depending how bad it is. It will not effect your husband's promotions at all, the little handbook they give you even says that.

    I do know that it can limit where you go. The Navy wanted to send my husband to Guam, but we found out that there are no Shriner's Hospitals in Guam and that's where my son receives all his care for his hand, so we were sent to Hawaii instead of Guam.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kaaau View Post
    Your husband isn't the one who would tell them usually unless he is asking for a different assignments due to your medical requirements. Normally it would come up in your medical screening. Then a determination would be made as to whether or not they thought things could be handled while you were overseas.

    In todays age with the military trying to cut back on spending it can keep him from being retained if he refuses to take assignments. Maybe he can get switched to a 1 year unaccompanied tour.
    Let me explain more.. When my husband in-processed he read over a paper and was suppose to fill it out because I see a specialist. But, he didn't fill it out because I haven't seen the doctor for 3 years due to no insurance. I am going next Tuesday to see him for the first time in 3 years. The lady told him, after I go see the doctor for him to come back to her and fill out that paper on me.

    He doesn't want to go back and fill it out, because I told him I read where I wouldn't be able to go overseas with him IF he was sent. He is still at BCT so he doesn't know where he's going at this point.

    What exactly do you mean by he can be retained if he refuses to take assignments? I'm so confused at this point and now he's angry at me for all of this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by luvmynavyET View Post
    My son is EFM because he was born missing his left hand. We had to fill out some paperwork and sent it back in. They will assign you a category depending how bad it is. It will not effect your husband's promotions at all, the little handbook they give you even says that.

    I do know that it can limit where you go. The Navy wanted to send my husband to Guam, but we found out that there are no Shriner's Hospitals in Guam and that's where my son receives all his care for his hand, so we were sent to Hawaii instead of Guam.
    Has you husband been sent overseas w/o you since you are enrolled in the program? Do you know what choices the AD member has if they are asked to go overseas and their family can't accompany them? Are they allowed to refuse an assignment or be reassigned to somewhere the family can accompany them? Or if when their told they're going somehwere that's end of discussion?
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    he needs to follow the rules- you need to get enrolled in EFMP-

    this can cause him to go over seas without you- it will be a 1 yr unaccompanied tour-
    if you do not do this and you lie to go with him- you put your life and your husbands job on the line-
    they can kick him out for lying to get you command sponsored fruadulantly
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    Quote Originally Posted by gunsgirl View Post
    he needs to follow the rules- you need to get enrolled in EFMP-

    this can cause him to go over seas without you- it will be a 1 yr unaccompanied tour-
    if you do not do this and you lie to go with him- you put your life and your husbands job on the line-
    they can kick him out for lying to get you command sponsored fruadulantly
    O.K. So, it will be a 1 year unaccompanied tour instead of 2 years like I was told before, correct? Also, please don't think we would lie about anything, I said he didn't want to tell them not that he wouldn't. He doesn't lie, he might not like what he has to do, but he will do it.
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    Nobody can guarantee whether he will be sent overseas or for how long. It's up to the needs of the military.

    The EFMP program will make sure that the EFM will have access to the services you need.

    We've never been sent overseas. That was just sheer luck though. If/when DH gets overseas orders, then he will go. Depending on where he is sent to, we will stay put. That is just the nature of the beast.

    I know several people who have EFMP dependents and it in no way hampered their promotions.

    See your doc, fill out the forms. It will be better for your healthcare. No point of stressing over where he'll be stationed, especially since he's still in boot.

    Good luck!
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    Hawaii is our first and will be our last duty stationl. He spent so many years with Nuke schooling and shore duty, by the time we leave here, he will be out of the Navy. SO we will never have had the opportunity to go overseas. The way I understand it is that he can still go overseas, it would just be as a geo bachelor.
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