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    Hey, I'm a newbie.. but i have a question.. Should my boyfriend and i get married to better out benefits with the navy? He leaves for IL June 11, 2009 and i'm freakin out.. but that's another story.. Anyways.. We want to get married but we can't decide whether to wait until he gets home for good or go ahead and take advantage of the family benefits.. Any advice?
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    I think that the best thing to do is look at whether or not you are ready for marriage and whether or not YOU personally are ready for the military lifestyle, and not worry so much about the benefits.
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    You should get married because you love each other and that is what you both want, not just to better your benefits.
    If you're ready, then you're ready. If you're not then you're not. Only you 2 can make that decision.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Serran View Post
    You should get married because you love each other and that is what you both want, not just to better your benefits.
    If you're ready, then you're ready. If you're not then you're not. Only you 2 can make that decision.
    You took the words out of my mouth.
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    Eh, I might get disagreeing thoughts here, but if you guys are already engaged and already plan on getting married anyway, and you are 100% of this, might as well do it now , that's just me tho
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    Quote Originally Posted by Serran View Post
    You should get married because you love each other and that is what you both want, not just to better your benefits.
    If you're ready, then you're ready. If you're not then you're not. Only you 2 can make that decision.

    I have to say, I get really irked by people who marry for the benefits... Marriage should be about love and a lifetime committment, not so the military can take care of you.

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    Uh no, you get married because you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Not for some of the benefits the military offers.
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    i say, IF both of you are ready and in love totally and know you will do this, then do it now and take advantage! but only IF!

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    I'm going to ignore the silliness of getting married just for benefits and say this: If yall are planning to get married anyway, and its just a matter of the date, then I'd say to get married before he leaves because you'll be the first one notified if something goes wrong. (In general) he'll be allowed to call you if he gets recycled or something, rather than calling his parents and hoping they pass the info along to you. Yes, he'll get a bit more money and things, but you're ridiculous if you're going to tie yourself to someone for the rest of your life just to get an extra couple hundred bucks in the bank.
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    Just curious and to make sure you don't have any strange ideas, what kind of 'family benefits' are you expecting to get?
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