aw75257
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How are you doing? Have things been easier lately? My boyfriend is on deployment right now. It's the first time we've been apart for so long since his basic training a few years ago.
I"m sorry to hear what your family is saying! People sometimes try to make conversation and give helpful comments without realizing that they're actually being very cruel! I am sure that your boyfriend isn't over there in training because he doesn't love you. In fact, if he's willing to go through it because he envisions a future with you, then that's a pretty great proof of how much he cares. People just don't understand that. Nobody goes through this kind of separation because they think it'll be fun, we do it because we want to create a better future. I hope you're hanging in there! I'm sorry I hadn't answered before, was going through some stuff of my own. I'm back now and ready to listen if you need anything!

Yes he is, however he is about 2 years along now. He just finished SERE.

Hi! Basic is the hardest. The no communication is the hardest part. My husband is now deployed and I'm dealing with it really well. Considerably better than basic. You have to keep yourself busy. Like seriously busy. I'd go to work, than the gym, than go home and walk my dog, than make dinner and prepare for the next work day, and than go to bed and start all over again the next day. On the weekends I prepared for moving. I went through all of over stuff and got rid of any unnecessary things, reorganized, packed up whatever I didn't need from that time til moving time. I'd also plan things with family and friends. Every few weeks I made sure I had something big planned that I could look forward to. Right after he left was Halloween and than two weeks later something else was going on, and two weeks later was thanksgiving, than a bunch of stuff for Christmas, and than I had to prepare for the trip to his graduation. And than there was AIT where we could talk everyday and it wasn't as bad. It's not easy, I won't sugar coat it. But it's definitely doable. You can make it through it. If you ever need to vent or just talk, feel free to message me

Oof try not to listen to them. That's rude and unless they were the same MOS in the military they probably have no idea what they are talking about anyway What does your SO do in his job?

Awe sorry it's been rough What do you usually do to keep busy?

Just wanted to say welcome!! Hope you're doing okay today and it's nice to meet you!