Medic2Doula
Senior Member

Hi, thank you it really means a lot. I'm just going through the motions, its different not having my mom around especially since I still live at home. It's definitely a new lifestyle to get used to.

Hi,
I am still fairly new on using the site, I saw you asked how I was and I didn't know how to go about responding then the posting was gone. But first off thank you for checking on me. I am trying to maintain. Deployment on top of everything else going on has been difficult and I don't really have anyone to talk to, not even him. I am just trying to cope and take one day at a time.

TA is tuition assistance. They paid for 12 semester credit hours a year (I believe it is 16 now) when my DH used it. Since your DH doesn't have much college left it shouldn't take long to finish but he could take his time, too.

I'm not sure about the waivers. My DH took care of all that and it was a long time ago. Lol He was in the reserves when he rejoined, too. They added his reserves years for pay purposes. For instance, he hits his AD 20 years this month but because they include his reserves years for pay he gets paid the 22 year rate for his rank.

Btw, we're from NE Ohio.

CONGRATS on the baby! How wonderful! Thank you for your kind words. I don't know how old your other children are but maybe they can try to help with some of the basics if they are a little older? Hopefully you will get lots of extra feel good hormones with the arrival of your newest addition I do miss those super hormones ...made me feel like superwoman!!!

Yes, when I run on fumes I try to tell myself it can only get better again from that low point and that things can only get better. Having been there too many times over the past few years with the deployments and training I am getting better at recognizing when it is stating to happen so I can try adjust so that I don't hit that low. But once in a while it still sneaks up on me and catches me off guard! It is great to have a place to vent and share all the good the bad and the ugly...but hopefully mostly the good!

Honestly thank you so much for taking time out of your day to share your story with me. Your mil sounds awful. I am so sorry you had to experience that. It truly makes life like hell. I don't know how a mother can hurt and manipulate their own child like that. It is so terribly sad.

My mil has had toxic relationships with basically ever family member in her life and has no relationship with her other children. Of course, it is everyone else's fault, not hers.

Your husband sounds so much stronger than mine. I wish he could see how toxic she is like your husband has. It's like he knows it but because of her illness since he was a child she has used that against him. I genuinely believe that he feels like if he cuts her off she will die. And I don't think he could live with the guilt. She has said over and over to him we only have each other.

Do you think you leaving was the thing that made your husband finally come around? I am devastated to be without him. Do you think there is any point in trying to make it work... after he betrayed me with allowing this woman and mother in our home? Thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening to a complete stranger. I am horrified to tell my friends or family any of this until I get my thoughts/plan together... And I think it is wonderful that you were able to keep your family together and work through things. Thank you again!