JennaK828
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Hey lady!

Have fun this weekend. Let me know how it goes!

It just recently started being one-sided. ever since his depression got worse. It's so frustrating. We talk every day... in one way or another even if it's just through text. Again, lately it's been me initiating most of it, but he's always there to answer and ask how my day is going and I can tell he's trying to stay upbeat. I don't want to make the mistake of backing off and putting a rift in the relationship, I also don't want to smother him if he really just needs a little backing off, you know?
I've seen your posts about DB and his hectic work, it takes strong women to be in military relationships. Sometimes you have to be a lot stronger that other times, I guess.
I've never thought of it that way-- forget about yourself for a little. I've felt terrible that DB is so depressed but if I am being 100% honest with myself, I have felt terrible more because how it's affecting me and our relationship. That is the best advice I've gotten...I never stopped to think of that until right now.

Thanks so much It's so relieving to talk to someone who can relate.

That makes sense. I guess the "honeymoon phase" is ending for us too. I understand exactly what you mean about you used to be his distraction. When we talk everything's great. He'll laugh with me, we're excited about the marine ball... It's just He's been super depressed lately because he's alone in his house and his roommates have been deployed. He says it feels as if he has "a weight on his chest" he's distracted and worried and stressed. I'm just not sure how to handle it. He does apologize from time to time about acting different. He says it's not fair to me that his depression is affecting me. And I tell him I understand and that I care about him enough to work through it and he appreciates that.
I just don't know how to continue handling it? Do I give him his space for a little? Do I keep going on normally? It's hard to stay positive for him when he's so down. It starts to bring me down-- I want the old DB back. He is talking to a therapist and is on meds, It's just so hard not knowing how long he's going to be in this depression. It's hard because the relationship feels so one-sided these days.

Hey Girly!
Just seeing how you're doing. DB has been incredibly non-talkative lately. We didn't talk at all yesterday, bc I think he's stressed and I thought maybe a little time for him to clear his head will be good. Do you go days without talking to DB? You seem to be going through similar situations with him. Just wanted some insights.
Hope you're doing well!

That's so great!!
Good, you talked to him about him being "distant"? That must feel like a weight off your chest. Two weekends in a row AND a wine festival!! Now, you're just rubbing it in I'll keep my fingers crossed for you too!! I'm so glad to hear things went well. You're on cloud 9 now I'm sure
My weekend went well--didn't see the DB though He was in DC this weekend saying goodbye to the last of his friends being deployed. He's been really down and not talkative lately because all of his best friends are leaving. I can't imagine what he's going through. I let him know I'm here for him and he's constantly thanking me for being so patient. Makes me not only physically miss him but emotionally too. Grr.
BUT the marine ball is coming up the beginning of November!- I'm hoping he's in high enough spirits to want to go to that-- because I would love to get all dolled up
When will your guy know about this weekend?

How was your weekend with DB?!

I'm in a fairly new relationship with my DB also long distance!--I was reading through some of your posts and I can relate so much to the emotional rollercoaster!!! Hang in there, girly.. If it wasn't so worth it, it would be easy. Whenever you need an ear to vent to let me know!

Thank you for your comforting words. You have such a kind spirit.