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    for those of you who have had good break-ups... do you have any tips as to how to handle the big "talk" (from the break-uppers point of view)?
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    just lay out your reasons. try not to get emotional or yell. also don't place direct blame on him say things like I am having problems in this regard and I can't handle a relationship or whatever you decide to say
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    Quote Originally Posted by harrisonsdream View Post
    don't place direct blame on him
    that is going to take some serious self-control. but it's a good point.
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    oh trust me i know it's so easy to say YOU did this and YOU did that. just be like I can't accept this sort of behavior, etc etc. good luck hun
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    Its not you... it's me? That always works doesnt it.....

    We're from the country.. And we like it that way
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    I wish I had some good advice for you but I'd agree with harrisonsdream...try to stay calm and state your reasons without playing the blame game too much. Lots of




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    Quote Originally Posted by tifflovezyou View Post
    Its not you... it's me? That always works doesnt it.....
    haha love it!

    but really, i dont have any good advice on this topic...i suck at break ups
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    did i miss something? i thought his story was checking out? good luck!!
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    Make sure that you make it clear that you are breaking up. It sucks to have that "did we really break up?" question out there and have to have the talk all over again. None of that "We need to take a break from eachother" stuff.

    I would like to be with my for a while but thats what made me so tired in the first place!
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    I'm sorry you're going through this, if his story is false and such, which I hope it is not!

    I feel as if everytime I tried to make a break up as civil as possible, it got worse. I know I'm just way too sensitive(even if I was the one initiating the break up) to be civil. I know that sounds bad, but I can't leave my emotions out of anything in relationships. Keep us updated honey, I wish I had more answers for you


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