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    Help about to get married..

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    i'm not gonna bother putting this under dear sos, just because i'm that lazy, but i really need the advice...

    i'm getting married in ten days to my df. tonight when we were talking about the wedding, i asked him if he was scared, and he said, nope, not at all, what do i have to be scared about?

    i said, nothing, nm, but in my head i'm going...oh, i don't know...EVERYTHING! is it a bad sign that i'm scared? i mean, at this point i think i'm more scared about moving across the country away from everything i've ever known than the marriage, but since we're moving right after we get married i tend to kind of lump it all together and i can't pick it apart in my head.

    i suppose my point is that i'm scared shitless, and he's not at all, and i feel like i shouldn't be. maybe it's just nerves. i don't know, how do you tell nerves apart from real fear?

    of course, it doesn't help that everybody that hears about how we're driving from kansas to washington together - a 24 to 25 hour drive - either says "good luck" in this really sarcastic tone or you know tries to otherwise warn me how horrible it's going to be, like by the time we get to our new home we're going to be ripping each other's heads off.

    which doesn't bode well at all, given that he has a horrible temper.

    i don't know. i'm so excited about everything, until i start to think about all this...



    help? advice? butterflies and rainbows? anything?
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    Don't let it get to you. He may be nervous, but not admitting it because he doesn't want to worry you. As for people's comments about this drive you have to take, screw 'em. Let me go ahead and warn you what (I think) you're going to hate the most... when you're talking about how much you hate him being gone, people that have been married for awhile will tell you that pretty soon you're going to be loving the days he's gone.
    Anyway, good luck, I'm sure everything will go wonderfully! And congrats on the wedding!
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    I know exactly how you feel. I wasn't scared of the actual marriage, I was scared shitless of moving 4 days after we got married across country. I was worried about being stuck in a car with Dh, but it was surprisingly well and it was a honeymoon for us. We both have tempers, which was even more of a shock that it went really well.

    To me, it sounds like you're scared of moving instead of the marriage itself, maybe because that's how it was for me and our situations are similar. And yeah, it's normal to be nervous right before you walk down the aisle!
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    Some of my best times with DH are when we drive for hours and hours in a car together. We go to Phoenix from our home (in KS) every summer and it's about a 21 hour trip, and it gets tedious, but I LOVE being with him during that time! It's great bonding time, I think.

    I think nerves are completely natural - especially since you're moving so far away soon after! That is two huge life changes all at once, that is scary! But just try to relax...take a deep breath, and know, you're NOT in this alone, even if he says he isn't nervous, he's still in this WITH you, you're doing this together so no matter what happens, he is your support you can always count on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by s. rosa View Post
    i'm not gonna bother putting this under dear sos, just because i'm that lazy, but i really need the advice...

    i'm getting married in ten days to my df. tonight when we were talking about the wedding, i asked him if he was scared, and he said, nope, not at all, what do i have to be scared about?

    i said, nothing, nm, but in my head i'm going...oh, i don't know...EVERYTHING! is it a bad sign that i'm scared? i mean, at this point i think i'm more scared about moving across the country away from everything i've ever known than the marriage, but since we're moving right after we get married i tend to kind of lump it all together and i can't pick it apart in my head.

    i suppose my point is that i'm scared shitless, and he's not at all, and i feel like i shouldn't be. maybe it's just nerves. i don't know, how do you tell nerves apart from real fear?

    of course, it doesn't help that everybody that hears about how we're driving from kansas to washington together - a 24 to 25 hour drive - either says "good luck" in this really sarcastic tone or you know tries to otherwise warn me how horrible it's going to be, like by the time we get to our new home we're going to be ripping each other's heads off.

    which doesn't bode well at all, given that he has a horrible temper.

    i don't know. i'm so excited about everything, until i start to think about all this...



    help? advice? butterflies and rainbows? anything?

    Girl you pulled the words right out of my mouth. But we are driving from Texas to Virgina!! If you need to talk let me know but I am having all the same feelings What day are you getting married? We are getting married July 20th
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    Oh, I just saw you wanted rainbows and butterflies, so here you go!

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    Everything you are feeling is perfectly normal. I was scared to death the week before my wedding because EVERYTHING was changing..but at the same time I was thrilled to be starting that new chapter in my life. Good luck
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    don't let it get to you!! it's normal to be scared!!! as far as the drive....sure you might get into some little tiffs along the way, but every married couple does. it doesn't mean your marriage won't last. and you might need to take a couple of hours away from each other when you get there, but that's perfectly fine!! every couple needs a little time apart sometimes. even if it's just sitting in seperate rooms, doing seperate things for 2 hours. good luck and that's not a sarcastic one enjoy your wedding and your drive.
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    What you're feeling is normal...I think you are just nervous..
    Stop and picture your life without him....Wouldnt be right would it? Getting married and moving is alot to take in but together you'll be alright....
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