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    03-10-2013 10:22 AM

    When to get married?

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    Hello, my fiance is currently in BCT and we are trying to figure out when the best time to get married would be so that I can be placed on his first orders? Before AIT? During AIT? After?
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    03-10-2013 10:27 AM
    I would do before because after he will already have his orders so they'll have to be changed to add you and during will be hard to find a time where he's not busy with work.
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    03-10-2013 10:33 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by hannahfarr View Post
    Hello, my fiance is currently in BCT and we are trying to figure out when the best time to get married would be so that I can be placed on his first orders? Before AIT? During AIT? After?
    You should get married when your ready. If its a matter of pushing up a wedding a short amount of time, go for it. But if your rushing because you want to move in together, its generally a bad idea.

    As for the information your looking for. You need to be married BEFORE he gets his orders to his first duty station if you want the military to pay to move you. If your ready, before boot is generally the easiest because there is less changes of paperwork and less hassle.
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    03-10-2013 10:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by His*PITA* View Post
    You should get married when your ready. If its a matter of pushing up a wedding a short amount of time, go for it. But if your rushing because you want to move in together, its generally a bad idea.

    As for the information your looking for. You need to be married BEFORE he gets his orders to his first duty station if you want the military to pay to move you. If your ready, before boot is generally the easiest because there is less changes of paperwork and less hassle.

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    03-10-2013 10:48 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by His*PITA* View Post
    You should get married when your ready. If its a matter of pushing up a wedding a short amount of time, go for it. But if your rushing because you want to move in together, its generally a bad idea.

    As for the information your looking for. You need to be married BEFORE he gets his orders to his first duty station if you want the military to pay to move you. If your ready, before boot is generally the easiest because there is less changes of paperwork and less hassle.
    don't let the military dictate your life and marriage. Get married when you are ready and then you can figure out the orders and stuff.
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    03-10-2013 11:35 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by His*PITA* View Post
    You should get married when your ready. If its a matter of pushing up a wedding a short amount of time, go for it. But if your rushing because you want to move in together, its generally a bad idea.

    As for the information your looking for. You need to be married BEFORE he gets his orders to his first duty station if you want the military to pay to move you. If your ready, before boot is generally the easiest because there is less changes of paperwork and less hassle.
    Yup this.
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    03-10-2013 11:39 AM
    How long is his AIT? My DB is at his for about a year and half so during leave is an option for us.
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    03-10-2013 05:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by photographerkate View Post
    How long is his AIT? My DB is at his for about a year and half so during leave is an option for us.

    His AIT is only 17 weeks, so not an option, unfortunately. But I plan to go visit a couple of weekends so would it be possible then?
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    03-11-2013 08:11 AM
    My answer would depend on the reason for why you want to rush it...

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    03-11-2013 08:14 AM
    You should really get married when both of you are ready. It doesn't need to be rushed just because he is going to be away for a little while.

    Good luck with whatever you decide
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