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    Well It has to do with relationships, but its a vent sorta as well. My DB has visited just about every place I have dreamed of going to and doesn't want to visit them again. This made me sad and I was talking to my friend about it. She suggested a girls trip. But none of my girlfriends are willing to ditch their husbands long enough to go on a friggin trip!

    Is that normal?
    I am the last of my friends to be not married. So I really don't have anyone to hangout with unless I want to discuss baby clothes and diapers

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    I'll gladly ditch my husband & all baby-talk for a vaca with the girls

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    I'm not sure what you are asking is normal. For him not to want to go somewhere twice? I mean, I get that. I've been to a lot of countries and I'd like to see other places before I'd go back to them. As for your friends, I don't know if that is normal. If I really want to go somewhere, I make it happen and if that means its by myself, then fine. I actually like going places by myself. My friends (except one) don't have the $ for travel, or aren't adventurous. I've just accepted that.

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    i just never imagined having to travel to other countries by myself. I would like to share the experience of going with someone
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    Not in my marriage. I still do all the things I always did, I love girls trips and concerts, bars, hotels, all that fun stuff and my husband will still be here when I get back.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joychaos View Post
    i just never imagined having to travel to other countries by myself. I would like to share the experience of going with someone
    JMO, if someone can't break away from their husband for a few days then that's a problem. Even in a marriage, you need space.

    ETA: I'd like to clarify that I'm not saying there are problems in a marriage if spouses can't leave each other but I took the OP as request of a vacation with girlfriends is like unheard of to them & something they would never even consider. It's great if your SO is your preferred travel partner & DH is mine also but depending on the place, if I had the money to throw away, I'd gladly go with my friends. But since that takes time, planning & money, yes, I'd rather go with DH. But a vacation somewhere in the US with my friends back home, you'd see dust behind my feet.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rissa*Rawr View Post
    JMO, if someone can't break away from their husband for a few days then that's a problem. Even in a marriage, you need space.
    then I guess all of my friends have problems? they are all happily married though...*shrug*
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    Get some new friends!! Not saying to necessarily replace the old ones, but there's always room for new, right? There's always people out there you could find to take a girls vacation; I know I would love to more than anything if it was affordable right now.

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    then I guess all of my friends have problems? they are all happily married though...*shrug*
    Not saying they have problems or that they're unhappy but you don't lose your life in a marriage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kprime View Post
    Get some new friends!! Not saying to necessarily replace the old ones, but there's always room for new, right? There's always people out there you could find to take a girls vacation; I know I would love to more than anything if it was affordable right now.

    Wish I had friends like you guys around. I would kill to have some that weren't attached to their husbands by the hip.
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    Not saying they have problems or that they're unhappy but you don't lose your life in a marriage.
    indeed. It seems they have lost their individuality ....er independence?
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