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    So I went out on a date last night nothing but a date. And the guy is super sweet and all but he wants to be in a realtionship. I said that we can date not realizing that he meant me being his DG crap. I dont want to be mean I have been friends with this guy for ever and he is super sweet but I dont want to be in a realtionship right now. But at the same time I dont want to hurt him. And he put it on facebook. Crap!! What do I do here?

    Plus he is or was (not really sure) good friends with EX DF. Plus He is AF the only reason he is home right now is cause he is on post deployment leave.

    I do like him but I dont want to be that girl that just jumps around from guy to guy either.
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    You just need to be honest

    Be straightforward with him. Clear up the issue and tell him it was a miscommunication.
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    Oh facebook, I had an issue with it earlier! LOL, and I agree with Starsinthesky, BE HONEST. As hard as it may be! Good luck!
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    I think it would be a greater disservice if you let him think everything is peachy when you know what you want.
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    Just tell him that you like hanging out with him, but since you have so much going on in your life right now you aren't in the position to have a boyfriend (or something like that).

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    The problem is I do like him and I dont want to make him think that I led him on. Idk I mean this could turn out to be a great thing I dont want to screw that up either.
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    just say "hey, i'm sorry if you took it the wrong way, but i only want to DATE right now. i've just been in two relationships that didn't work out so well, so i'd like to be casual while i make myself a priority."
    if he's cool with that, it'll be fun for you to go on some dates. if he's not, it's better for you to get out of it now, especially since i read your post as he will have to leave again soon? definitely do not get in a long distance relationship that you're unsure of just because of a miscommunication!
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    I have a cousin who seems to put every single girl he meets on facebook
    I hope you can figure it out. Personally, that would scare me off. i would run from that
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyKatee View Post
    So I went out on a date last night nothing but a date. And the guy is super sweet and all but he wants to be in a realtionship. I said that we can date not realizing that he meant me being his DG crap. I dont want to be mean I have been friends with this guy for ever and he is super sweet but I dont want to be in a realtionship right now. But at the same time I dont want to hurt him. And he put it on facebook. Crap!! What do I do here?

    Plus he is or was (not really sure) good friends with EX DF. Plus He is AF the only reason he is home right now is cause he is on post deployment leave.

    I do like him but I dont want to be that girl that just jumps around from guy to guy either.
    Quote Originally Posted by LadyKatee View Post
    The problem is I do like him and I dont want to make him think that I led him on. Idk I mean this could turn out to be a great thing I dont want to screw that up either.
    Be honest, be straight forward.

    Tell him you just got out of 2 serious relationships and your are not looking to jump into another one, you just want to keep it casual and date. Tell him you need time to focus on your self, you have a lot going on in your life and you need to be single for a while.

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    Just tell him...

    One date does not a relationship make.
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