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    I recently started dating this new guy and hes never really been too, too affectionate. Any advice on how to get him to be a little more affectionate if i can?
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    do it to him would be my only advice
    some guys need to be led
    and even more just need a breaking-in period!
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    Quote Originally Posted by lorem_ipsum View Post
    do it to him would be my only advice
    some guys need to be led
    and even more just need a breaking-in period!
    just be upfront about it..depending of course how long you've been dating or if you feel comfortable talking about that kind of stuff yet. the breaking-in period is SO true too! good call.
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    We have been seeing eachother for 2 months.. and officially dating for a little over a month. Hes never been too affectionatr.
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    Ask him on his take of physical affection.

    My brother isn't very affectionate with his wife... but there are his moments.
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    Ask him on his take of physical affection.

    My brother isn't very affectionate with his wife... but there are his moments.
    The being physical part we have no problem with.. but its like hand holding or cuddling.
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    The being physical part we have no problem with.. but its like hand holding or cuddling.
    I'd just ask him.

    I told DH upfront that I am a very affectionate person.

    I like to cuddle and hold hands. But I don't like obnoxious PDA.
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    when you say you want more affection, what exactly are you referring to? is it that he's just not affectionate in public? or that when you two are alone he never makes the first move.

    he could just be not comfortable with public affection, not everyone is, and if its the later, maybe he just doesnt want to press you to do something you're not comfortable with since you two are still pretty new at being together.

    i would say to just instigate it more often, eventually he'll realize its what you like and will follow suit, if it keeps up as a problem, its best to just be open about your feelings.
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    To me, being physically close is natural for humans when they're around someone they like/love and very important in a relationship. I would try to find out why he isn't being physically affectionate, because to me that would be a really big deal.
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    When he does something affectionate, reenforce that - tell him how much you liked it.


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