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    Four types of marriages

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    A 20-Year Study Figures Out the Four Types of Marriages

    I definitely had a volatile marriage first time around. DH and I have a validator marriage. We've never had an argument and I've never once heard him raise his voice at all. I know that's a good thing, but I won't lie I secretly want an avoider marriage. Traditional gender roles are a dream come tru to me.

    Kind of a weird study, though. They insist everyone falls into tone of those, no gray area.

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    Wow... those seem really cut-and-dry. I don't think all types of marriages could possibly be categorized or properly described in that short of a space.
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    My sociology book has a very good article on this type of study. The categories were slightly different though, and more believable that everyone falls in to one of the types.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jojobanana View Post
    Wow... those seem really cut-and-dry. I don't think all types of marriages could possibly be categorized or properly described in that short of a space.
    That's what I was thinking. I agree that relationships with lots of conflict rarely change in the long run, but I think there might be more than just 4 types.

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    My first marriage wasn't any of these, and my current is a hybrid. I don't buy the claim that ALL marriages fit perfectly into one category.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Loving View Post
    My first marriage wasn't any of these, and my current is a hybrid. I don't buy the claim that ALL marriages fit perfectly into one category.
    While I have the validator marriage (I guess), I agree.
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    Uh-oh. Mine's most likely in the volatile category because when we're happy we are ecstatic, but we do fight sometimes. Our fights are always big ones, but we definitely get over it eventually! On the other hang, we are both 110% against divorce so maybe we have a good shot.

    haha. interesting study!
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    Well, I guess of those are the only options then we are volatile.

    But we also have traditional gender roles (by choice) as far as him makin the money and me cooking and cleaning goes. In addition, we have equal input on decisions. I think the only one we don't really fit is hostile.


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    volatile according to that study lol but the decision making is definitely equal. so a mix of volatile and validator, but with high conflicts at times

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