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    How should I handle this...?

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    My ex-fiance and I are on friendly terms- "taking a break from eachother."

    I have a chance to date a guy we both knew- this guy lived in our town while he was still in the AF & moved when he got out of the service and divorced his wife....

    I plan on NOT telling my ex because he might think bad things....TBH I had the hots for AF guy months before my ex got out of the Marines (ex & I wrote and phoned before we had a physical relationship), but AF guy was married at the time.

    I also plan on not going into all the drama ("explanation") between my ex and me with AF guy.

    So...do these plans make me look sneaky? Should I be more open with either of them?....
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    Did you set rules for your break? If this is within those rules, then your XDF doesn't need to know right now. I wouldn't go out of my way to tell him, anyway. If you didn't set rules but you plan on getting back together, you should clarify whether dating others is okay.
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    Sounds like a plan.

    I should also mention there's not real LTR potential with AF guy. The dissolution of his marriage was pretty gory & he swears he will never marry again.
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    go for it.
    You are on a break. If you can't move on with your life, then you are just in a LDR.
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    If you are single there is no need to explain your dating to anyone.
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    Update- the AF guy's ex-wife is stalking him. I am officially scared off.

    He must be really awesome then, right?...lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Southern-queen View Post
    If you are single there is no need to explain your dating to anyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SkylarkButterfly View Post
    Update- the AF guy's ex-wife is stalking him. I am officially scared off.

    He must be really awesome then, right?...lol
    Yikes on the ex... That would be my queue to swim away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Southern-queen View Post
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