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    So confused!!

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    Ladies, I need more advice from people who may understand a bit more. As you all know, J and I are doing amazingly well. We even talked more in depth today about us and how well we're doing and how we're ready to start up a relationship when he comes home.

    My dilemma is everyone else right now. My parents, my friends, some of my co-workers all say I should be going out and meeting other guys and not be waiting around for J. I know I could do this, but I just can't. It doesn't sit well with me and I would feel horrible if I hung out with a guy one-on-one and then said "ohhhhh by the way, my heart is with someone else so this really won't go anywhere kthxbai"

    I love J, I can't deny it anymore. I really and truly do and we're both uber excited for him to come home so we can see each other and be together again. But that won't be until later this year (August). So how can I just push my fear of the reactions of my friends and family aside and just let them know that I'm serious about this? I don't want to get that look of "well, you guys broke up for a reason", but we broke up because of the deployment and because I needed to figure myself out first. There was never anything wrong with us.
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    As long as you are happy (and it seems like you are) I wouldnt even care to justify my relationship to anyone else...What matters is your happiness, and if they dont understand that then that is their problem kwim?
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    If you don't want to date, then don't. It's not their choice to make.

    be cool.
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    I think as long as you're happy you should go with your gut! Eventually when the people around you see how happy you are with your decision, they'll start to be happy for you too
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    You don't have to justify yourself.
    The next time somebody says something , you could tell them : " My love life is not your business, thanks for your concern but i love J and we are fine".

    Or you could tell them : Shut up, nobody asked for your opinion" ... this is more along the lines of what i would say .
    But you should go with the nicer version
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    Quote Originally Posted by jellybeanerr View Post
    As long as you are happy (and it seems like you are) I wouldnt even care to justify my relationship to anyone else...What matters is your happiness, and if they dont understand that then that is their problem kwim?
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    Ummm....what's there to be confused about???

    You are choicing to wait until J gets back and NOT go out and date other people.
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    Tell them that is none of their damn business...

    Are they awesome like you?? Uh, no they aren't...

    I would also tell them that you are sorry that their lives are
    so pathetic that all they can do is worry about your decisions
    and what you do with your love life...

    Losers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by decks89 View Post
    Tell them that is none of their damn business...

    Are they awesome like you?? Uh, no they aren't...

    I would also tell them that you are sorry that their lives are
    so pathetic that all they can do is worry about your decisions
    and what you do with your love life...

    Losers.




    This is something i would say.
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    i mean it's not like your clock is ticking

    follow your heart. i could see their point and would probably agree with it if you were casually dating someone and closed every other door to men to pursue that ONE person after a week of dating, but your connection with J is a lot deeper i think.

    and also. it's only till august. not like you're waiting for him till you're 30. even if it doesn't work out you'll at least know you followed your heart and tried your hardest. YOU are the only person you have to answer to at the end of the day. so do what's best for HER.




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