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    Moving Home to give my DH space.

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    I cant believe this is where we are at after only 3 months of being married. He is in ATT school here in Great Lakes where we are living. He is overwhelmed with school, and he tells me i cant relate. He recently started talking to another woman who he says are " strictly friends", but its too much for comfort. He says she understands him, and that he can talk to her and she knows what hes going through because she is in the same position. I feel my husband is so distant. He suggested i move home so he could focus on school, and i wouldnt be such a distraction. To me i feel like if i move home our marriage will suffer. Has anyone been in this situation? Im really upset. I dont want to leave him, but i feel like im just not needed here.
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    That is not ok. You are pregnant with his child and he wants you to move away and be ok with it at the same time he's telling you that he's been talking to this other woman??

    I would need to have a sit down with him and see what is going on. While I understand needing space sometimes, I would not be ok with that situation.
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    I would not be ok with this at all. Especially being pregnant!

    Why can't he talk to you the way he does with this "other woman"? Regardless of whether or not they are sleeping together, if he feels he can talk to her about things he can't talk to you about, its emotional cheating. JMO
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    Quote Originally Posted by ArmyCupcake View Post
    That is not ok. You are pregnant with his child and he wants you to move away and be ok with it at the same time he's telling you that he's been talking to this other woman??

    I would need to have a sit down with him and see what is going on. While I understand needing space sometimes, I would not be ok with that situation.
    Totally agree.
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    I am no longer pregnant. We lost the baby at 9 weeks. :'(
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    That doesn't sound good at all. You definitely need to talk all this out. I can't believe he would even ask you to do that when your pregnant. I'm sorry your having to deal with that,
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    Ive sat down to talk to him about my feelings, and he says he is " desensitized" to my feelings. He says that she knows what its like to have stress on her plate and i dont. Its just really frustrating when you feel like you are talking to a wall. He isnt expressing that any emotion towards the loss of our baby, but its killing me. He wont even listen.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Love733 View Post
    I am no longer pregnant. We lost the baby at 9 weeks. :'(

    I'm sorry to hear that. What he is doing is definitely not ok.
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    I am no longer pregnant. We lost the baby at 9 weeks. :'(
    Sorry to hear that. You looked a lot farther along in those pictures.



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    Sorry to hear that. You looked a lot farther along in those pictures.
    Thats the date they gave me, i think i was just eating everything in sight.
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