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    Can I change my mind?

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    My husband and I are supposed to be going through a divorce but Im not sure I really want it. I thought I did but the more I think about it the more i think I may be thinking "the grass is greener on the other side". We have had a lot of problems and a lot of trust issues between the 2 of us. We have been married 14 years.....do I keep working on the marriage or do I just walk away?
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    Have you tried counselling and talking with your husband?
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    This is why the divorce process is so long. So you hvae time to think about these things
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    You should talk it out and consider counseling for atleast a month or two to see if your minds change. IMO.
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    yes you can change your mind. you'll be out of any money you've spent on legal fees but nobody is going to make you continue the process

    as for whether you should stay or walk away, none of us can answer that discuss it with your husband and see were he stands.




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    A couple years ago was a hard time for my family because my parents were going through a divorce after being married for 18 years and having 3 daughters. They even went to a lawyer to decide how things were going to be split....3 years later, they are still married, and IMO happier than they were before. My dad slept on the couch for about a year before they decided they'd work on things. they both individually went to counselors, and a lot of my dad's problems had to do with medication he is on for epilepsy. It made him like a zombie and really depressed.
    While they still have problems today, I know they are SO much better than they were before.

    What I'm saying is there is no one who says you cannot change your mind. Talk to him and see if it can be salvaged.
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    try talking to your husband and looking into counseling if you haven't already done so
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    Thank you for the advice. I guess I needed some confirmation that it is okay. I dont know but it just makes me feel more confident in my decision. I genuinly appreciate ya'lls responses.
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    It is definetly okay to change your mind
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    Try to work it out, grass seems greener on the other side. But at one time you had a green lawn, so with a little TLC and a little work it can be green again. Best wishes!
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