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    The guy I just started dating..

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    Hmm...could be he'd change his mind, could be he won't. I think 25/26 is a good age to be thinking about marriage and all. If it's important to you I'd move on before you're too invested. Good luck

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    It could just be his way of making a point that he doesn't wanna jump right into marriage. I wouldn't rule him out til you get a better feel
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    I think by saying you are limiting yourself to 2 years of dating before engagement, you might be disappointed. I think he could well be serious. Of course, life may happen and he may change his mind, but if you'd really dump the guy because you might have to wait over 2 years...well....IDK not sure what to say.


    OOOO also, if you've only been with him 3 weeks, you might not know this, but maybe he knows himself pretty well and thinks he is immature? Maybe that's why he says 30? IDK just a thought...
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    Seeing that you mentioned you guys just recently started dating, i wouldnt look too deep into that. .
    Try not to stree the situation soo much, things change, and you dont want to freak him out too badly by pressuring him into changing his mind or thinking differently. . .
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    My husband said he wanted to wait till he was out of the military before getting married. He still had a few years left then. However he got to a point where he knew I was the one and he didn't want to wait any longer. We got married and now he is going career. Honestly, if you love him, you will wait, if you don't want to wait then you don't love him that much KWIM


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    Quote Originally Posted by SandyKay View Post
    My husband said he wanted to wait till he was out of the military before getting married. He still had a few years left then. However he got to a point where he knew I was the one and he didn't want to wait any longer. We got married and now he is going career. Honestly, if you love him, you will wait, if you don't want to wait then you don't love him that much KWIM
    Agree and it's a little early for that to even be a worry yet if you just started dating. I would revisit that topic in 6 months to a year personally.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SandyKay View Post
    My husband said he wanted to wait till he was out of the military before getting married. He still had a few years left then. However he got to a point where he knew I was the one and he didn't want to wait any longer. We got married and now he is going career. Honestly, if you love him, you will wait, if you don't want to wait then you don't love him that much KWIM
    Good point
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katyp View Post
    It could just be his way of making a point that he doesn't wanna jump right into marriage. I wouldn't rule him out til you get a better feel
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    Quote Originally Posted by SandyKay View Post
    My husband said he wanted to wait till he was out of the military before getting married. He still had a few years left then. However he got to a point where he knew I was the one and he didn't want to wait any longer. We got married and now he is going career. Honestly, if you love him, you will wait, if you don't want to wait then you don't love him that much KWIM
    This. I wouldn't worry too much. If and when you guys fall in love/become a lot more serious then you can bring up your concerns. But for now, have fun getting to know him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SandyKay View Post
    My husband said he wanted to wait till he was out of the military before getting married. He still had a few years left then. However he got to a point where he knew I was the one and he didn't want to wait any longer. We got married and now he is going career. Honestly, if you love him, you will wait, if you don't want to wait then you don't love him that much KWIM
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