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    So lost on how things work!!!

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    My fiance and I have been together for a year. We recently moved in together, so the whole military life is completely new to me. And I feel CLUELESS!!!
    He comes home a few weeks ago and announces his name has been put in for deployment... then 2 days later I find out I am pregnant. Niiiice combo!
    So since then we have been talking about getting married SOON... Before baby and deployment, due to time constraints.

    How does everything work following us getting married?? I have no clue? And being his first marriage, he has no idea either. He assumes that the day after we get married we can just go on base and handle everything....

    So I guess if you dont mind, I have some questions as a military newbie and soon to be wife.

    -What do we need to register me as his wife? Can we go the day after like he thinks, or do I have to have licence/ss card/anything first changed over? Do we have to wait for a certified marriage licence in VA (I got married in Nevada and had to wait for a stamped licence in the mail weeks after the wedding) ? BASICALLY, WHAT ARE THE STEPS IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING THE WEDDING AND WHAT DO WE NEED?

    -Tricare...... I am pregnant and currently on medicaid. I assume once we're married I lose the medicaid. How long of a lapse is there before I can get on tricare? (or does this also depend on what we have to do for the above question?) I dont want a long span of no prenatal care as I am high risk.

    -Before he deploys, I assume I need to get POA so I can add the baby onto everything since he wont be here? Is this correct?

    I'm so confused, it's not even funny.
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    Once you get married he will enroll you in DEERS and then you will get your ID card and other things needed.

    You should be able to get on tricare pretty much immediately. There is a bunch of info in the military benefits section on all this stuff.
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    Thanks! I will go read over there...
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    In most places in Va you can take the marriage license after its signed by your officiant to the courthouse (same place you will get it) yourself and have them make you certified copies right then and there. Making you able to take those papers (yes you will need a certified copy of your marriage license) to the closest base (does not have to be his) to get yourself set up in DEERS.

    If you are not doing a big ceremony and just want the paperwork of being married done, you may be able to set it up so that you get your license, get married, and get your certified copies all in the same day within a few hours. It may take a little planning, finding a judge or officiant, but its doable!

    As for medical, you are covered from the day that you get married for emergencies. Your military ID (which you will get when you enroll in DEERS) will be your insurance card. You will be put on tricare standard automatically, and can choose to get on tricare prime if you want. You can google information on the differences of the two, or go on over to the military benefits section and find a thread (there are tons) on the differences!

    With the POA, yes... you should not only get a general POA, but also specific ones that say "this is to add our child into DEERS", another that states you can do anything on bank accounts your name might not be on, if you plan on getting a house or car or anything where you would need to put his name down as well get a POA.
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    Not sure if it is the same for everyone but Tricare had a cutoff date of the 20th of the month for me. Basically that meant, since I came in on the 21st of May I had to wait to see doctor's outside of the naval clinic on base until July 1 instead of June 1. If I would've came in a day earlier, my coverage would've started June 1. But I was able to go to the naval clinic starting day 1, just not civilian doctors/specialists.

    I got married in VA on a Saturday. Monday we went to the courthouse in VA and got a couple of extra copies of the certified marriage license. We immediately went to DEERS and got me set up with an ID. Make sure you have your birth certificate, social security card, and marriage license. I think that's all I needed.

    Hope that helps!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ErinJP View Post
    Not sure if it is the same for everyone but Tricare had a cutoff date of the 20th of the month for me. Basically that meant, since I came in on the 21st of May I had to wait to see doctor's outside of the naval clinic on base until July 1 instead of June 1. If I would've came in a day earlier, my coverage would've started June 1. But I was able to go to the naval clinic starting day 1, just not civilian doctors/specialists.

    I got married in VA on a Saturday. Monday we went to the courthouse in VA and got a couple of extra copies of the certified marriage license. We immediately went to DEERS and got me set up with an ID. Make sure you have your birth certificate, social security card, and marriage license. I think that's all I needed.

    Hope that helps!
    That cut off date would have been because you were switching from standard to prime (or the other way around, always get confused), but anyone who is a dependent has coverage from the day they become dependent (are born, get married, adopted, ect).

    Now how soon someone will get seen is the same as any dr.'s office, there may be a wait or something like that to get an apt, but you will have insurance from day one.
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    You are all such great help! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

    We were going to put together a small wedding, but it wasnt going to get to be what we really wanted, so we may just be going to the JP now and having something more "formal" at a later date. Should make it easy enough to get everything we need!
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    Quote Originally Posted by His*PITA* View Post
    That cut off date would have been because you were switching from standard to prime (or the other way around, always get confused), but anyone who is a dependent has coverage from the day they become dependent (are born, get married, adopted, ect).

    Now how soon someone will get seen is the same as any dr.'s office, there may be a wait or something like that to get an apt, but you will have insurance from day one.
    No that was when I enrolled in tricare. I should have said it this way-

    I had coverage from day 1 to be able to go to the naval clinic on base and for emergencies however since I enrolled after the 20th of the month, I had to wait a month in order to be seen by civilian doctors or specialists. That was fine with me because I was able to be seen by the naval clinic that same day as a walk-in.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ErinJP View Post
    No that was when I enrolled in tricare. I should have said it this way-

    I had coverage from day 1 to be able to go to the naval clinic on base and for emergencies however since I enrolled after the 20th of the month, I had to wait a month in order to be seen by civilian doctors or specialists. That was fine with me because I was able to be seen by the naval clinic that same day as a walk-in.
    We are saying the same thing

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