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    What is it that will make you upset with him? Maybe it is because you have become a little independant with him gone and now you have to let him back into your life. He has probably changed a little as well and doesn't realize either.


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    we all change.... so yes you probably did change and he changed also.

    but i agree with sandykay you are probably way more independent now.
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    I agree with the other posters. Maybe it is just taking a bit longer for you both to adjust to the changes in each other. I hope things get better soon.
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    Yes it is very possible and like the other ladies said, you are probably a lot more independent which involuntarily leads you to feeling short with him when he tries to do things you are used to doing yourself now. Give it some time. Things might never go back to "how they were before" but they can improve for the better, and they will.
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    You have probably both changed and still getting used to each other. But if you've recognised this, you can work on having more patience or whatever with him, and him with you, so you wont become agitated and then hopefully things will get back to how they were.
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    I'm sorry- it might be a combination of resentment for him leaving and just getting set in your own ways while he was gone. I hope that in time the feelings pass! I would try to do something away from every day life (even getting away for one night) to reconnect. Maybe that will help if you haven't done it already?
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    chesney- that is a great idea, except we went to Miami for 5 days for my spring break and he says that's when he really noticed me acting agitated with him and arguing more!

    Thanks for the advice everyone, I am really going to work on my patience. I do think I've become more independent with him being gone, and maybe it was a weird change for me with him being back all of the sudden.
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    I agree with CHESNEY.
    I think you subconsciously resent him leaving you to go on deployment.
    I had a brief moment of doing that to my DF while he was actually away but I realized and snapped out of it. Obviously your situation is different, but thats MHO.
    Good luck hunny.

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