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    Domestic violence is a very serious situation. It is estimated that 1 in 4 women will be abused in some way in her lifetime. You are not alone. It is not your fault. NO ONE deserves to be abused.

    From http://www.ndvh.org/ :
    Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 170 languages through interpreter services. If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233).
    The Hotline serves as the only domestic violence hotline in the nation with access to more than 5,000 shelters and domestic violence programs across the United States, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Advocates receive approximately 21,000 calls each month.
    If you call the hotline, they will probably have you make a "Safety Plan for Domestic Violence Victims", which usually consists of the following (taken from Safety plan for domestic violence victims ):


    IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED...
    Safety Plan Tips


    • During an argument, or if you feel tension building, avoid areas in your home where weapons might be available – the kitchen, bathroom, bedroom or workshops.
    • If there are weapons in your household such as firearms – lock them up!
    • Know where there is a safe exit from your home – a window, elevator or stairwell.
    • Discuss the situation with a trusted neighbor if you can. Ask them to call 911 if they hear a disturbance. Find a code word to use with them if you need the police.
    • Always keep a packed bag ready.
    • Know where you would go to be safe if you have to leave, even if you don't really think you need to.

    Remember that no one ever deserves to be abused. It is not your fault!
    Steps to take if you are planning to leave your situation...


    • Open a bank account in your own name.
    • Give an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra clothes and some money to a trusted friend or neighbor in case you have to leave quickly.
    • Think about who your best resources are if you need to find shelter or money.
    • Have change on hand to make emergency calls.

    Remember that your safety and that of your children should always come first!
    Things to take with you...

    Identification:

    ___ Birth certificate(s)
    ___ Driver's License/ Military ID
    ___ Social Security Card(s)
    ___ Passport(s)
    ___ Insurance documents
    Financial:

    ___ Money/credit cards
    ___ Checkbooks, bankbooks
    ___ Savings bonds
    ___ Food stamps
    Legal Papers:

    ___ Copy of your Order of Protection
    ___ Car registration/ insurance papers
    ___ Copy of lease/ deed to home
    ___ Medical and school records
    ___ Separation/ custody papers
    ___ Power of attorney/will
    Other:

    ___ Medications, prescriptions
    ___ Keys to home and vehicles
    ___ Address book/ telephone cards
    ___ Clothes
    Once you have left: more steps to safety


    • Keep your Order of Protection with you at all times.
    • Give photocopies of your Order of Protection to your children's school, your employer, your neighbors, as well as your local police department.
    • Change the locks on your doors.
    • Discuss safety plans with your children.
    • Inform children's school about who has permission to pick up your children.
    • Ask neighbors to call the police if they see your abuser nearby. Show your neighbors a photo of the abuser and tell them about your Order of Protection.
    • Ask someone to screen your telephone calls at home and at work.
    • Have someone escort you to your car or walk with other people if possible.
    • If communication is necessary between you and your partner, meet in public places or have a third party make contact and relay messages.
    • Talk with people who can provide you with support on domestic violence issues.

    ALWAYS CALL THE POLICE IF YOU ARE CONCERNED FOR YOUR SAFETY!
    This site has multiple resources throughout the United States for victims of Domestic Violence: Domestic Violence - National Hotlines & Resources - Feminist Majority Foundation

    You are NOT alone. There are people that care, and people that will help you get out of a bad situation.

    Domestic violence statistics can be found here: American Bar Association - Commission on Domestic Violence: Key Statistics

    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESOURCES BY STATE:
    State Resources << Violence Against Women << womenshealth.gov

    A few other links:
    Domestic Abuse Prevention and Resources
    Navy Raising Awareness During Domestic Violence Awareness Month
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    If you know of more resources, please let me know and I will add them to the OP. Feel free to PM me if you're not comfortable posting in this thread
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    Thank you for posting this, if anyone has any other resources, please let us know


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    Please let me know if you have any more resources you would like me to add.
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    awesome info

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    This is wonderful, I hope it will be utilized to the fullest if needed!
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    The YWCA! I utilized their services twice (once for sexual assault and once for domestic violence). They are a fabulous organization with a variety of different resources ranging from support groups to safe houses.

    I myself have stayed in their safe houses and it was actually a really wonderful experience. Not at all like you would imagine a shelter. And the women were great at every stage from admittance to the time I leave, so dont let any preconceived ideas of it being a potentially negative experience hold you back from getting the help you deserve!
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    This is my first time on this part of the boards. I just happened to see this thread and felt compelled to post. It isn't resources, but a story.

    I am 26. Back in December, a friend from high school was murdered by her boyfriend. They had been dating almost a year and he had shown no visible signs of being abusive, at least not that we knew at the time. He had beaten her once about a week before, then strangled her and left her in their home to die. We found out later that he'd been in jail before and his family was so scared of him that they moved and didn't tell anyone before he was to be released... 3 years before he did this. We are currently waiting to go to trial in this case.

    I share her story whenever I can to let women know that yes, this does happen. And hopefully to give them the push they need to get out. You are strong enough. You can get away.

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