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    Elopment....keeping it secret

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    It's a long story, that I don't feel like saying right now.

    But how long can you keep an elopement a secret?
    No, we're not married. Just curious.

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    Idunno... there was a guy that was in AIT with my husband who has been married for almost 3 years now and neither his or his wife's family know. He's in Korea right now and they still haven't told the families... they plan on telling everyone when he gets back from Korea
    Honestly, I don't understand keeping it a secret... if you get married, why not tell people? What difference would it make once you're already married?
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    My family is not....they are great about us getting married just not yet, or eloping. So to tell them right away, may not go over well. Thats my only reasoning, but I guess we could tell them, and they would just have to deal with that.
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    oooo...sneaky sneaky if you are on your parents insurance or they still claim you on your taxes would they maybe find out that way?? Who knows
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    Quote Originally Posted by crumper07 View Post
    oooo...sneaky sneaky if you are on your parents insurance or they still claim you on your taxes would they maybe find out that way?? Who knows
    Ah, true.....I am a dependent.
    So it wouldn't work eh?
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    Quote Originally Posted by SnarphBlat View Post
    Ah, true.....I am a dependent.
    So it wouldn't work eh?
    I dunno... hopefully someone else can give you that answer!
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    the only people in my family that know I eloped are my mom, one brother and his wife, all the rest think our ceremony was the real thing (it was, but yeah). I haven't even told my sister who is like my best friend. We've been married over 2 years


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    Honestly, it comes with SO many complications it really just doesn't seem worth it. For example, are you still on your parents' insurance? If so, that is a potential complication since, once you marry, you are Tri-Care eligible. If you are receiving any sort of financial aid, you would need to report the approriate status and income information (your husband's rather than parents') - again, a complication. Not to mention the complication of the very likely EXTREMELY hurt feelings and possible longterm fall out when the truth does come out.
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    I found out via myspace about my sister and I was extremely hurt that she didn't want her family apart of something so special. We're still not talking. We were supposedly best friends. It was only the first step in her keeping secrets. Next came dropping out of school etc....
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    we kept ours secret for a good 2 weeks and then my parents found out when I was sent something in the mail from Navy Fed with my new last name.
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