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    To Marry or Not To Marry...

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    Hello all!
    So here's my question, i'd just like to know some opinions from experienced women. My DB and I have been dating straight for almost 4 years. Before I left to study abroad (I'm a full time student and left 2 weeks before he goes to boot camp) we were dressed to the nine's and had a priest for an elopement. However at the last minute, we talked about it and both agreed that we wanted a real, traditional wedding with family and friends in attendance. We both are undoubtedly sure that we will be married eventually and spend together forever, however we don't know if it will really behoove us to get married sooner than later (aka after i graduate in 2 years). Are the benefits of marriage really a motivator to get married sooner? Like I said, we are ready, we just want to be smart about it in regards to our education and all. Thank you!!!
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    not sure what "benefits" you are talking abou, but in regards to military... yes, it's better if you're married. You could then use millitary medical insurance, and military benefits as a spouse. I don't think anyone can make that type of decision for you but you and him. If you 2 are ready to be married and willing to make that committment to each other, then I don't think that the fact you are in school should stop that from happening.
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    This is a really great question. I am interested to see the other responses.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wife-n-mommy View Post
    not sure what "benefits" you are talking abou, but in regards to military... yes, it's better if you're married. You could then use millitary medical insurance, and military benefits as a spouse. I don't think anyone can make that type of decision for you but you and him. If you 2 are ready to be married and willing to make that committment to each other, then I don't think that the fact you are in school should stop that from happening.
    Completly agree.
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    Honestly, it depends on the people and the relationship. Obviously you're committed to each other and have been, but are you ready or need to take the legal step? Personally, I wanted to wait til I was out of school to work and save up for the wedding myself so I wouldn't depend on my parents for it... but I don't really know how to answer your question.
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    thanks for the responses! Yes by "benefits" i definitely mean in regards to military benefits!! I do understand this is a personal preference but I guess what i'm asking is in your own opinion, would you wait until you were done with school or take the legal step (because of course we feel committed to each other, paper or not). Thanks again!

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