Military Significant Others and Spouse Support - MilitarySOS.com
Page 1 of 4 1234 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 31

Thread: mixed signals?

  1. Member
    Armychik120's Avatar
    Armychik120 is offline
    Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    ft riley
    Posts
    79
    #1

    Confused mixed signals?

    Advertisements
    i finally talked to my db for the first time since he went out to cali for a navy training program. it started out nice n he told me he loved me for the first time. then it turned into something like he was trying to drop a hint for me to leave

    I say:

    i love u
    00:59:10intrnlcnflct87 says:

    love you too hun
    00:59:33I say:

    id wait for u forever if i have u
    01:00:04intrnlcnflct87 says:

    as much as i care about you, i don't want you to do that
    01:00:35I say:

    i dont think ill have to cuz i think that i will b with u soon enough
    01:01:03intrnlcnflct87 says:

    hun, over the next year and a half im gonna get bounced around all over the country for different shit
    01:01:11I say:

    yeah so am i
    01:01:12intrnlcnflct87 says:

    in the end i don't know where im gonna end up
    01:01:19I say:

    and i dont either
    01:06:59I say:

    r we together till forever ends?
    01:07:27intrnlcnflct87 says:

    hun, i love you but i don't know anymore
    01:08:11I say:

    why cuz ur so far or uve found someone to replace me?
    01:08:37intrnlcnflct87 says:

    i havent even had time to look for people to hang out with
    01:08:38intrnlcnflct87 says:

    all i do is work
    01:08:41I say:

    ok
    01:08:43I say:

    thought so
    01:10:55intrnlcnflct87 says:

    all i do is go to lecture after lecture
    01:11:02intrnlcnflct87 says:

    training after training
    01:11:04intrnlcnflct87 says:

    all day long
    01:11:22intrnlcnflct87 says:

    then i have to come back to a small as room and write papers and do research


    n then he just left.what did i do
  2. Banned
    goldilockz's Avatar
    goldilockz is offline
    Banned
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Posts
    25,776
    #2
    I know what *I* would do, but I don't think you want to hear it.
  3. Member
    Armychik120's Avatar
    Armychik120 is offline
    Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    ft riley
    Posts
    79
    #3
    ok. im sure that its gonna b to leave him. but i need to fix this soon im leaving for boot camp shortly so i need my head in the game.
  4. Senior Member
    carmel11725's Avatar
    carmel11725 is offline
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Posts
    8,144
    #4
    well, obviously, you need to talk more about it. Maybe he's just stressed with work and feels like he cant give you what you deserve...i dunno. but i hope things work out for ya.
  5. MilitarySOS Jewel
    mimismiley's Avatar
    mimismiley is offline
    MilitarySOS Jewel
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    RAF Alconbury
    Posts
    1,569
    #5
    I dont think you did anything wrong. It sounds like he is trying to be honest with you . He is trying his hardest to work his way up. It will be very tough . I dont doubt he loves you . He just wants to warn you that there will be times when he wont have time for you as he might be buried in work and might not be able to contact you for different reasons. If you can handle that then stick with him . He will need a lot of support and understanding and he might not always be able to always give the same back.
    I hope this board can help you at those times..
    you can get through this together....
  6. Member
    Armychik120's Avatar
    Armychik120 is offline
    Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    ft riley
    Posts
    79
    #6
    i kn ow the military puts a heavy burden on relationships and im willing to accept him being across the country. but at this point id almost rather he be deployed. how do i let him know im here for him? i told him n he ignored me. so maybe i need to say it another way
  7. Member
    Armychik120's Avatar
    Armychik120 is offline
    Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    ft riley
    Posts
    79
    #7
    btw i just wanted to say that everyone here is awesome n very helpful.
  8. MilitarySOS Jewel
    mimismiley's Avatar
    mimismiley is offline
    MilitarySOS Jewel
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    RAF Alconbury
    Posts
    1,569
    #8
    I think if you just continue to support him as you do and tell him you love him he will know that you mean it. He might not respond as he has got too much on his mind...
  9. Member
    Armychik120's Avatar
    Armychik120 is offline
    Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    ft riley
    Posts
    79
    #9
    i dont wanna cross the fine line tho. cuz i want him to know i care but i dont want him to stay with me only cuz he thinks i will go postal if he leaves me.
  10. BJo
    Banned
    BJo's Avatar
    BJo is offline
    Banned
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Your mom
    Posts
    25,315
    #10
    I don't think you did anything wrong. Maybe he is just stressed out from how busy he is. Maybe he doesn't think he can handle a relationship given his current situation. How long were you dating before he left?
Page 1 of 4 1234 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •