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    Question Am I justified in my feelings?

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    Okay, not sure if this should be in pillow talk, but I thought I may as well post it here so I can get opinions from everyone.

    Well considering the DEARSOS post about porn..I got to thinking.
    I hate df watching porn. With a passion. It makes me angry and I told him I don't want to ever see him watching it and I've made that clear to him. He has his posters of naked women and I told him I don't want them in our house when we move in together in May.
    He used to have a real problem with porn and I know that. He's slowed down but I've found it on his computer and just got pissy with him.
    I get upset when he makes comments about other girls to me. We'll just be walking and he'll say something along the lines of "Oh I wouldn't mind that sometime" or "Damn she's hot". To me. I just think that's wrong. I told him that I don't want to hear that, and that it hurts me.
    I also got upset when he told me that he thinks about being with other girls.

    So basically, idk if it's just me and I don't know if I'm wrong with my feelings and just need to suck it up.
    It's just how I grew up, it's part of my morals that I don't like that.

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    I personally think that if someone doesn't like porn, then their SO should respect that. Porn in not necessary to be happy, and not necessary to survive. Even if he thinks it is no big deal, YOU don't, and he should honor your wishes.


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    I have no problem with DF watching porn..I watch with him sometimes...but we only do that every once in a while.....but the comments your DF is making are definitely not ok IMO
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    the porn doesn't bother me. but the comments would!!! thats just not right!!! its very thoughtless and disrespectful to you.
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    I think that the porn in small portions (not being obsessed with it) is OK. I know DB has HUGE amounts on his laptop and it doesn't but me because he doesn't watch it that often. I like to watch form time to time myself (with him but since he's away I have watched it alone) BUT the comments are not OK in my opinion I mean we all like ot look at the menu even when we are on a diet but to say it in such a way and make such a point of it is direspectful.
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    Just wanted to add that I can see why you have a problem with it when he makes comments like that. Have you tried compromising with him? Tell him that you will lay off bugging him about the porn if he will stop throwing it in your face and making comments like that?


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    Porn doesnt bother me. I told db I dont care if he looks at porn online, in magazines or watches it. But he doesnt want to any more. He even burned the magazines he had, deleted the porn on his computer, and broke the dvd he had. He says its all shit, and that he doesnt need it anymore.

    But the comments would bother me big time. I had an ex that did that, he ended up cheating on me, with one of the girls he told me was hott. It's very disrespectful and rude.
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    The comments would not be okay with me. Porn can be okay. If you're open about it. Even though I watch it on occasion I feel pressure to try to look like those girls when I watch it a lot.
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    I am not big on porn either. It was just the way I was brought up, but I see no point in it really. I would be very hurt if my DH said those things to me....for goodness sakes you know...I'm not his buddy, I'm his wife. Maybe he's getting you confused too.
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    DF doesn't really get into porn but I don't have a problem with it. Now if he had a "problem" with it would be a different story. Everything should be done in moderation. The comments are another story. Its very disrespectful! If you were making comments about men it would make him uncomfortable and probley pretty irritated. He needs to look at it with the shoe on the other foot and have some respect!
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