
Originally Posted by
alwaysmissing
Hi Lindsay. Just wondering, how long have you two been together? Worrying about faithfulness or losing interesting might go away when your relationship becomes older and more solid. But if it's already a pretty developed relationship then maybe it's just something you'll need to work on. One thing I'll say is that he probably worries about the same thing. He's going to be pretty restricted in his actions and who he can see, whereas you'll be at home with the whole world available to you. Honestly he probably just won't have as many options to be unfaithful. As for losing interest, sort of the same thing. He's not going to have a lot going on. My SO is often just bored. Whether its during his day while he's actually doing army related things or after hours when he's restricted to his base or even his room after certain hours and at times not even allowed electronics or things in his room. He's often just bored and getting to talk to me a highlight. I can't say for sure but I would assume that he might feel the same way, depending on what he's doing over there.
In the end I think it's just really about the committment. If you're both committed to this and stay committed and communicate if anything changes, you should be ok.
As for what to talk about on the phone, I agree with idratherbehiking that texting less during the day can lead to more to talk about on the phone. However, at a certain point, you just run out of things to talk about. Here are some things that I've found successful for reigniting conversation:
1. Watch a TV show together and text or talk throughout it. It gives you something to talk about both during the watching experience (if you can watch in real time together) as well as after the fact you'll have inside jokes about the movie/show
2. Play an online game together. We found a site where you can play chess together. I'm sure there are other games you could find as well.
3. Run a work problem or a friend's problem by him. Sometimes when I run out of interesting things from my own life, I give him the gossip on my friend's lives. Nothing personal I know they wouldn't want him to know but just like fun dilemmas or things like that and see what he thinks or if he has any good ideas.
4. Try on clothes for him over facetime. Ok this is specific and obviously there are a million things you can do over facetime. But I like this one because it makes me feel like he's still involved in my life. If I have somwhere nice to go I'll try on a couple different outfits for him and ask which he likes better. It's fun too just to see the look on his face and know how much he misses you.
5. Find those lists of questions to ask each other. The most common one I think is like 36 questiosn to fall in love. Seems forced/cheesey but I've done it with friends before being in an LDR and they're just kinda fun questions to talk about.
Feel free to reach out if you need more ideas but I hope those are helpful!
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