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    Hi, my name is Angel and I'm a girlfriend to an Army SF.
    We met in May and have been dating for over 6 months now. Even though the long-distance thing is rough (since I'm studying in Asia and he's in the States), we seemed to have made it work. I even flew over and visit him on base when he was stationed in Ft. Bragg for school.
    Two weeks ago, he told me on the phone that he was going to get deployed for 6 months in three weeks. I thought about flying over to spend some time with him, but he told me that he was going to be busy with all the preparation.
    And that was when I last heard from him.
    It has been two weeks now and truth to be told it is not a good feeling.
    I am not a needy girl but I could use some short messages saying that he'd be busy or somethin.
    Instead, when we last spoke, he told me he would call me in a couple of hours and that were his last words to me.
    I know they were probably locked up in some compound and doing some training but,
    two weeks!? I don't believe that he doesn't get a tiny bit of time to just text me.
    Now I'm afraid that he has just ghosted on me cause he wouldn't say the breakup words.
    The situation is tougher since we are already thousands of miles apart.
    We've gotten through all his previous trainings and the damn school he was in.
    I just don't understand why it is so hard to just give me some headsup.
    So could anyone with a similar experience help me out with my confusion?
    I'm all lost here. I know the situation is probably different with SFs but, does pre-deployment training really last that long without any connection?
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    Be very careful. Military, and especially military "special forces" is a very common guise for catfishers and scammers. Hopefully everything is legit, but please protect yourself and make sure you verify that what he tells you is real. Are you Facebook friends? Does he have you as "in a relationship with" him? Does the account have lots of friends (and hopefully family) so you cab be sure it's not a fake account created for catfishing?

    Again, maybe everything is fine, but your post did set off some possible alarm bells for me.
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    He doesn't have a Facebook account so that would not be the case. Plus I visited Ft. Bragg when I was back at the States with him escorting. I just hope he is really busy or something but I'm not so sure...
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    What does he do in the military? Are you using the abbreviation SF as special forces? Because I know it as security forces which is basically a cop in the military.

    His pre deployment preparation would be completely tailored to his job and the squadron/unit he was attached too, but yeah unless he left early it sounds to me like he cut ties. Two weeks with no contact prior to a deployment isn't something I'm familiar with.
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    Yeah he is in the army special forces... I tried calling his cell earlier and it went to not reachable due to lack of service. Does this mean he is out there at a compound or something? Cause last time I checked his phone number is still a valid one registered under AT&T...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Angel501009 View Post
    Yeah he is in the army special forces... I tried calling his cell earlier and it went to not reachable due to lack of service. Does this mean he is out there at a compound or something? Cause last time I checked his phone number is still a valid one registered under AT&T...
    Or it's just turned off. Did you meet friends of his while you were visiting? Did he tell you what his actual job was? Special forces isn't a job, it's like a designation. For example, he could be medical or weapons (I think this is what infantry is considered in the Army) or something like communication. If he is just telling you he's 'special forces' that's usually code for 'I'm not actually special forces, but I want you to think I'm cool.'

    ETA: And if you do know, I'm not saying you need to post it if you don't want to. I was just making sure that he wasn't only telling you he's 'special forces' because that is a pretty huge red flag that he is not who he says he is. Not to say he's not in the military, just saying that perhaps he is lying about what he actually does or even if he was deploying. Just being a total devil's advocate here.
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    They usually get more notice than 3 weeks before deployment. From my experience with pre deployment training, it was a month long but it happened way before deployment (like months before) something sounds off.
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    I don't know anything about the Army or special forces but every time my husband has been deployed they got way more notice than three weeks ... I agree with other posters ... something sounds odd to me.

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