Actually having a hard time - Long Distance Love

katieharneck · 11-06-2009, 01:05 AM

I never thought I'd get like this. And I hate it. I truly can't complain. My DF is 7500 miles away, yet we talk constantly on Skype and the only time I can't contact him is when he's at work. Not a bad deal at all, I know.

But, still, every night is a lonely one. I have a mere 52 days until I see him and usually the time is flying by. I assume it's because I'm wide awake at 1am, after saying goodbye to him before he left for work, and it's WAY to quiet here and my bed is much too big for just me.

Most of you girls have it much worse than me. And I hate to be the one to say that even when I talk to him constantly, I have a hard time without the hugs and the kisses and just having him physically with me.

But, I do.

I cry quite often when he leaves for work, and I know I've been stressed lately, which only adds to the emotional wreck I can be at times. I should be so happy that at least I know he's safe, that he isn't deployed, and that his internet has worked through every tsunami they've gotten this season. Sometimes, it feels like it isn't enough. No matter what, I just want more.

And I know all of you can relate to the feeling. I just needed to let someone know how I was feeling since I really don't want to burden DF with it. I know he has a hard time too and he absolutely HATES Kadena at the moment.

So much frustration.

Kasandra · 11-06-2009, 01:07 AM

PM whenever. I know exactly that feeling. Japan sucks completely!

msucollin · 11-06-2009, 01:09 AM

I know how you feel. We are in the same situation too, and I always feel bad missing him when I know he's safe on his base and there are so many men and women who aren't safe right now. Do you keep a journal? That really helps me when I'm feeling sad and missing him. My mom suggested that to me a few months ago and it's really helped. Also it could be a nice gift for your children someday. Maybe that's corny, I don't know... But it's helped me! Just a suggestion.

camarogirl · 11-06-2009, 01:09 AM

You are an amazingly strong woman!!! We all know, it gets hard at times, even when were able to have constant communication. Convos thru Skype are no match to good night kisses or welcome home hugs.

Youve done so well so far...hell, 2 years down, 1 year to go, right? Youll make it thru this!

Im always here if you need someone to talk to!

Pilar · 11-06-2009, 01:13 AM

I'm sorry you're feeling like that! Sometimes I get sad and miss my DB a lot too, but I think a lot of it is because I don't have much to do since I've been looking for jobs. Hope the next 52 days go by fast for you!!

LittleRed · 11-06-2009, 01:14 AM

It's toughest for me when I walk out of work and he's not there to pick me up like he used to do every night, or when I open the door at 2AM after getting off work and the house is dark and lonely. I will absolutely admit that while I am not a physical person, that is what I miss most about him being gone.

We're always here to vent to. Feel free to PM if you need an ear.

katieharneck · 11-06-2009, 01:18 AM

You all are SO sweet! I'm so glad I found this place. I'm not sure how I stayed sane before!

I keep freaking myself out by going over dates and leave plans for the next YEAR. It's too damn long and the AF needs to just send him home.

*Kim* · 11-06-2009, 01:23 AM

I hear you loud and clear! I'm in a very similar boat. Its hard, you have every right to be just as upset as anyone else. I hope your time apart passes quickly!

GatesGirl · 11-06-2009, 01:24 AM

Feel free to PM

katieharneck · 11-06-2009, 01:28 AM

In 52 days, I'll be in Japan for 16 days. I didn't think about this much when making the plans, but I'm so afraid that by me going out there... he'll have an even harder time being stuck there.

I can't wait to visit. Of course! But, ugh, I'm going to feel AWFUL when I have to leave him at the airport.

11-06-2009, 01:05 AM	#1 (permalink)
katieharneck Airman's Girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Me: Selfridge ANGB, Michigan; Him: Kadena AFB Okinawa, Japan Posts: 219 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 57% Longevity: 0%	Actually having a hard time I never thought I'd get like this. And I hate it. I truly can't complain. My DF is 7500 miles away, yet we talk constantly on Skype and the only time I can't contact him is when he's at work. Not a bad deal at all, I know. But, still, every night is a lonely one. I have a mere 52 days until I see him and usually the time is flying by. I assume it's because I'm wide awake at 1am, after saying goodbye to him before he left for work, and it's WAY to quiet here and my bed is much too big for just me. Most of you girls have it much worse than me. And I hate to be the one to say that even when I talk to him constantly, I have a hard time without the hugs and the kisses and just having him physically with me. But, I do. I cry quite often when he leaves for work, and I know I've been stressed lately, which only adds to the emotional wreck I can be at times. I should be so happy that at least I know he's safe, that he isn't deployed, and that his internet has worked through every tsunami they've gotten this season. Sometimes, it feels like it isn't enough. No matter what, I just want more. And I know all of you can relate to the feeling. I just needed to let someone know how I was feeling since I really don't want to burden DF with it. I know he has a hard time too and he absolutely HATES Kadena at the moment. So much frustration. __________________ 'Til my plane leaves!

11-06-2009, 01:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
Kasandra Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Southern Utah/Okinawa, Japan Posts: 591 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 86% Longevity: 1%	PM whenever. I know exactly that feeling. Japan sucks completely! __________________

11-06-2009, 01:09 AM	#4 (permalink)
camarogirl Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 2,062 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 98% Longevity: 8%	You are an amazingly strong woman!!! We all know, it gets hard at times, even when were able to have constant communication. Convos thru Skype are no match to good night kisses or welcome home hugs. Youve done so well so far...hell, 2 years down, 1 year to go, right? Youll make it thru this! Im always here if you need someone to talk to! __________________

11-06-2009, 01:13 AM	#5 (permalink)
Pilar Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Me- Houston, TX Him- Annapolis, MD Posts: 126 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 6%	I'm sorry you're feeling like that! Sometimes I get sad and miss my DB a lot too, but I think a lot of it is because I don't have much to do since I've been looking for jobs. Hope the next 52 days go by fast for you!! __________________ "Baby I just want to let you know I don't like the messenger window because next to your name it says available and you're not. You're mine" -DB

11-06-2009, 01:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
LittleRed Can't wait for finals! Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Me: Tempe, AZ. Him: Afghanistan Posts: 3,917 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 87% Longevity: 16%	It's toughest for me when I walk out of work and he's not there to pick me up like he used to do every night, or when I open the door at 2AM after getting off work and the house is dark and lonely. I will absolutely admit that while I am not a physical person, that is what I miss most about him being gone. We're always here to vent to. Feel free to PM if you need an ear. __________________ Visit my Passion Parties website! Enter discount code "msosladies" at checkout to save 10%.

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11-06-2009, 01:09 AM	#3 (permalink)
msucollin Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Nashville, TN Posts: 53 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 14% Longevity: 17%	I know how you feel. We are in the same situation too, and I always feel bad missing him when I know he's safe on his base and there are so many men and women who aren't safe right now. Do you keep a journal? That really helps me when I'm feeling sad and missing him. My mom suggested that to me a few months ago and it's really helped. Also it could be a nice gift for your children someday. Maybe that's corny, I don't know... But it's helped me! Just a suggestion.

11-06-2009, 01:18 AM	#7 (permalink)
katieharneck Airman's Girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Me: Selfridge ANGB, Michigan; Him: Kadena AFB Okinawa, Japan Posts: 219 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 57% Longevity: 0%	You all are SO sweet! I'm so glad I found this place. I'm not sure how I stayed sane before! I keep freaking myself out by going over dates and leave plans for the next YEAR. It's too damn long and the AF needs to just send him home. __________________ 'Til my plane leaves!

11-06-2009, 01:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
Kim Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: So Cal for me, Sasebo, Japan for him. Posts: 3,980 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 58% Longevity: 23%	I hear you loud and clear! I'm in a very similar boat. Its hard, you have every right to be just as upset as anyone else. I hope your time apart passes quickly! __________________

11-06-2009, 01:24 AM	#9 (permalink)
GatesGirl I'm Forever Yours, Faithfully Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: ME: Bellingham, WA, HIM: Spangdahlem AB, Germany Posts: 4,606 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 84% Longevity: 16%	Feel free to PM __________________ My is in Germany Wifey to Britt Shea, Ana1221, and Airforcegirl87

11-06-2009, 01:28 AM	#10 (permalink)
katieharneck Airman's Girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Me: Selfridge ANGB, Michigan; Him: Kadena AFB Okinawa, Japan Posts: 219 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 57% Longevity: 0%	In 52 days, I'll be in Japan for 16 days. I didn't think about this much when making the plans, but I'm so afraid that by me going out there... he'll have an even harder time being stuck there. I can't wait to visit. Of course! But, ugh, I'm going to feel AWFUL when I have to leave him at the airport. __________________ 'Til my plane leaves!