So, ladies, how can you be sure... - Long Distance Love

soldierscutie · 11-04-2009, 09:32 AM

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HeatherNichole · 11-04-2009, 09:35 AM

I think you should take a deep breath...and relax! Go with the flow...enjoy what the two of you have...believe him (especially if he has never given you reason not too!!)

If it doesn't work...it doesn't work...it will hurt but it will be okay! What's meant to be will be

soldierscutie · 11-04-2009, 09:54 AM

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BubMunkeyBles · 11-04-2009, 11:14 AM

Me and DH had talked for 3 months when he paid for my ticket out to Germany at Christmas (I spent Christmas with him). He proposed over my Spring Break (3 months later) and we married in July (4 months of engagement). Seriously, trust your gut.

We are currently in an LDR... Talking is what helps us. It's easy to doubt when your apart, very easy. Talking, letters, letting each other know you care is most important.

soldierscutie · 11-05-2009, 02:04 PM

Thank you, BubMunkeyBles! I think my instincts are in good working order so generally I trust them, just sometimes I have my moments!

candypants · 11-05-2009, 02:07 PM

I think you just know. DH and I met online and fell head over heels for each other before ever meeting in person. I never had a nagging feeling about him that made me think he was anything but genuine. Seriously, just trust your gut. If you feel something is off, it probably is.

soldierscutie · 11-05-2009, 04:01 PM

Candypants, I have a good gut feeling about him, we hit it off really well online and when we are together, it is pure magic. I just get insecure at times based on my own past history and things I have read here or heard from other women. It's hard to tell when the insecurities come from within me, or when I am projecting. I know I should not distrust him because of things other men may have done to other women.

I do want to try to keep things in perspective a little bit... if it's meant to be, it will work out.... if it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.

Pilar · 11-06-2009, 12:59 AM

For me, I think the little things say a lot about the guy. When relationships are new, most guys will go all out to try to win the girl over. But as time goes on, especially with LD, some of that excitement can be lost. But if the guy is genuinely interested as he says he is, it will show. I'd say just take it a day at a time and enjoy getting to know each other. If there is long-term potential there, you'll just know. It sounds cliche, but I really believe it.

msucollin · 11-06-2009, 01:04 AM

Originally Posted by Pilar

For me, I think the little things say a lot about the guy. When relationships are new, most guys will go all out to try to win the girl over. But as time goes on, especially with LD, some of that excitement can be lost. But if the guy is genuinely interested as he says he is, it will show. I'd say just take it a day at a time and enjoy getting to know each other. If there is long-term potential there, you'll just know. It sounds cliche, but I really believe it.

I agree 100%. DF and I have been long-distance for over a year now, and most of our time together. We've had good times and bad times, just like everyone else. It is easy to lose the excitement sometimes and to lose hope... But you're right: if it's meant to be, it will be. That doesn't mean you should stand by and do nothing, but it doesn't sound like you're doing that, so you're all set. Just follow your heart and take it one day at a time.

DF and I have made it and so can you! It's not easy but if he's the one then it's totally worth it.

LuvBluCoMi · 11-06-2009, 03:46 PM

Sorry I haven't been on this website for quite some time, and needed some inspiration with my current LD relationship too. I can really relate to this post. Insecurity seems to be the biggest struggle, and especially with us women sometimes! My DF came back from his 2nd tour in Iraq (5th deployment...yes 5th) in June due to PTSD, but got stationed in another state. DF and I were high school sweethearts and rekindled/reunited a couple years ago, and have been LD the whole time. We are sooo tired of the distance between us, but we try hard to keep going dreaming of a wonderful future together. LD and PTSD is a "double-whammy" for us, and my heart goes out to couples in similar situations. Here is a link to a great website I found about long distance relationships. If you've ever heard the saying, "the greater the sacrifice, the bigger the reward" or something like that! Please stay strong ladies, and believe that if it's meant to be it will happen!!!

Ooops! Forgot the link! Here ya go!!! http://www.longdistancerelationships.net/faqs.htm

11-04-2009, 09:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
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11-04-2009, 09:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
HeatherNichole Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Kansas Posts: 700 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 54% Longevity: 3%	I think you should take a deep breath...and relax! Go with the flow...enjoy what the two of you have...believe him (especially if he has never given you reason not too!!) If it doesn't work...it doesn't work...it will hurt but it will be okay! What's meant to be will be __________________ I am a hot pot....be jealous

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BubMunkeyBles MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Me- Tampa, FL, DH- Aviano AB Italy Posts: 6,550 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 82% Longevity: 29%	Me and DH had talked for 3 months when he paid for my ticket out to Germany at Christmas (I spent Christmas with him). He proposed over my Spring Break (3 months later) and we married in July (4 months of engagement). Seriously, trust your gut. We are currently in an LDR... Talking is what helps us. It's easy to doubt when your apart, very easy. Talking, letters, letting each other know you care is most important. __________________ Stephanie

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11-05-2009, 02:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
candypants Baby, I'm bad news. Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Ft. Campbell Posts: 3,693 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 64% Longevity: 19%	I think you just know. DH and I met online and fell head over heels for each other before ever meeting in person. I never had a nagging feeling about him that made me think he was anything but genuine. Seriously, just trust your gut. If you feel something is off, it probably is. __________________ "For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone." -Audrey Hepburn Check out our pregnancy blog at: www.littlebabyleaders.blogspot.com

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soldierscutie dumb girlfriend Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 109 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 26% Longevity: 4%	Candypants, I have a good gut feeling about him, we hit it off really well online and when we are together, it is pure magic. I just get insecure at times based on my own past history and things I have read here or heard from other women. It's hard to tell when the insecurities come from within me, or when I am projecting. I know I should not distrust him because of things other men may have done to other women. I do want to try to keep things in perspective a little bit... if it's meant to be, it will work out.... if it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. __________________ http://www.letssaythanks.com/Home1024.html Last edited by soldierscutie; 11-10-2009 at 02:34 PM.

11-06-2009, 12:59 AM	#8 (permalink)
Pilar Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Me- Houston, TX Him- Annapolis, MD Posts: 126 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 6%	For me, I think the little things say a lot about the guy. When relationships are new, most guys will go all out to try to win the girl over. But as time goes on, especially with LD, some of that excitement can be lost. But if the guy is genuinely interested as he says he is, it will show. I'd say just take it a day at a time and enjoy getting to know each other. If there is long-term potential there, you'll just know. It sounds cliche, but I really believe it. __________________ "Baby I just want to let you know I don't like the messenger window because next to your name it says available and you're not. You're mine" -DB

11-06-2009, 03:46 PM	#10 (permalink)
LuvBluCoMi Missin My Soldier, My Luv Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Me: TX Him: Iraq Posts: 54 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 16%	Sorry I haven't been on this website for quite some time, and needed some inspiration with my current LD relationship too. I can really relate to this post. Insecurity seems to be the biggest struggle, and especially with us women sometimes! My DF came back from his 2nd tour in Iraq (5th deployment...yes 5th) in June due to PTSD, but got stationed in another state. DF and I were high school sweethearts and rekindled/reunited a couple years ago, and have been LD the whole time. We are sooo tired of the distance between us, but we try hard to keep going dreaming of a wonderful future together. LD and PTSD is a "double-whammy" for us, and my heart goes out to couples in similar situations. Here is a link to a great website I found about long distance relationships. If you've ever heard the saying, "the greater the sacrifice, the bigger the reward" or something like that! Please stay strong ladies, and believe that if it's meant to be it will happen!!! Ooops! Forgot the link! Here ya go!!! http://www.longdistancerelationships.net/faqs.htm __________________ *"I love you beautiful and miss you dearly!! - DB* *~~~HE'S HOME!!!~~~*