I don't know how this is going to work.

[Kasandra]

I keep letting things get to me. I try my best and it always does. My husband and I got married a week before he left for Japan and its been the hardest thing of my life. His family didn't support us on getting married and whenever something goes wrong they have to email him and tell him that I'm messing up. I stay away from them as much as possible because they keep bringing me down. I fight with my husband all the time over it and it comes between us. He expects me to go and do things with his family when he comes home for Christmas, but they won't talk to me at all. They pretty much just pretend that I don't exists at all. I just wish he could see how he treats us. He thinks that I'm always the one with the problem, things don't ever seem to get any better.

[Kerind22]

I'm sorry. I can see how this would frustrate you. Try and keep your head and heart strong. Things will work out. :::

[Charity]

I'm sorry things are hard and frustrating right now. Hang in there - we're all here for you.

[savvy<3dizzy]

Sorry things are going ****ty Things will get better, just keep your head up hun. Have faith.

[Missing you....]

Im in a similar situation my husband is away and we have a daughter, his dad never comes around to see her or even calls to see how we are doing or anything, and when i call he never calls me back, but when my husband comes home about a week before he pulls this whole grandpa of the year act and tries to see our daughter 24/7 and then complains to my husband that he never gets to see his granddaughter! so when DH gets on me about it I just tell him whats going on when hes not here and he can choose to believe me or not but i know whats really going on it does make things uncomfortable when I do have to see my father inlaw but i just put on a happy face I don't know if that helps at all but just wanted you to know your not alone when it comes to problems with the in-laws!

[Darlabenzy214]

I'm sorry you have to go through with it. This is a common problem and don't feel bad because you're not alone. try to reach out to the in-law family as best as you can. Call and invite them out for dinner. I don't know what other advice will help you.

[Kasandra]

Originally Posted by Missing you.... Im in a similar situation my husband is away and we have a daughter, his dad never comes around to see her or even calls to see how we are doing or anything, and when i call he never calls me back, but when my husband comes home about a week before he pulls this whole grandpa of the year act and tries to see our daughter 24/7 and then complains to my husband that he never gets to see his granddaughter! so when DH gets on me about it I just tell him whats going on when hes not here and he can choose to believe me or not but i know whats really going on it does make things uncomfortable when I do have to see my father inlaw but i just put on a happy face I don't know if that helps at all but just wanted you to know your not alone when it comes to problems with the in-laws!

My heck thats the exact same thing for me. I just want to kick them in their behinds. They make me feel crap all the time. My daughter has been sick last few days and his mom will call to check up on her and ask me what I need. I don't need anything and then they report back my dh and tell him that I'm not letting them help out. Well I like to do things on my own and I bought all the stuff she needs the day she got sick, plus they were out of town on their boat again. (thats where they're at every weekend.) They try to make me seem like the bad person and its so ridiculous.
And I posted this last night after we got in a fight about how he just needs to tell his family everything because they treat me like crap.

[LittleRed]

This is my situation, exactly, except he's in Afghanistan instead of Japan. We've gone to a marriage counselor to figure out how to deal with his mother. She only got worse. This week makes 6 months since she's refused to talk to me.

Feel free to PM anytime. I know what you're going through.

[Missing you....]

Thats good that you told him I think he needs to know what your going through and maybe he can mediate.... but if you ever need a shoulder to lean on just PM me!

[Kasandra]

thank you all. You girls are too sweet!!