Back in the states harder then Iraq - Long Distance Love

lilfader · 10-16-2009, 08:40 PM

Well my DB has been home since mid July. He was deployed for 15 months and of course it was really hard. When he came home we were able to spend a little over a month together, then he had to head back to TX where he is stationed. For some reason I find coping with him being gone so much harder this time. I have been out to TX once and he has come home once since he reported back. Every time I say goodbye I get stuck in this rut for about a week and I'm just sad for that whole time. I've cried more since he's been home then the whole time he was deployed. We are able to talk all the time and text all through out the day, at night we get on skype so we can see each other and play games and have that extra interaction, where when he was in Iraq I would sometimes go days with out talking to him.

Has anyone else experienced this? I don't know if its because he's so close, yet so far, or what. I just want him back so badly and I miss him so much its overwhelming sometimes.

pinkpolkadots · 10-16-2009, 09:14 PM

Yes I've experienced this. Sometimes when they are far away and you know you won't be able to talk to them, you reconcile that with yourself and go about your routine.

THEN, when they are still far away, but you can talk WHENEVER you want, it suddenly makes the distance feel unbearable.

I don't know what to tell you other than, for me, it got better after while. It ebs and flows, but that's the thing with any LDR.

luckylucy · 10-17-2009, 12:16 PM

When Nathan graduated from the Academy he had his 60 day leave, and he spent in in GA. I didn't see him for oh, a month and a half, and I delt with that just fine. Then, he came back for IFS. He was here for a month and just left again. I'm having a horrible time with it. I think it's just that your just more in love with him, he means that much more to you and it's harder to have him away.
That's how I feel, I just think we got so much closer in the past three months than we ever were when he was at the Academy.
Distance does make the heart grow fonder.

BubMunkeyBles · 10-17-2009, 04:05 PM

I think its normal. You know he's within reaching point. You aren't allowed to go to Iraq... but you can go to Texas KWIM?

Del · 10-17-2009, 04:56 PM

I went through that. DB wasn't deployed nearly as long, but once he was back and we were still LDR, it really ate at me for the first few months.

After a while though, I was able to get back into the routine a bit. So hang in there!

10-16-2009, 08:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
lilfader Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Jacksonville, FL/ my soldier--Iraq Posts: 516 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 12% Longevity: 12%	Back in the states harder then Iraq Well my DB has been home since mid July. He was deployed for 15 months and of course it was really hard. When he came home we were able to spend a little over a month together, then he had to head back to TX where he is stationed. For some reason I find coping with him being gone so much harder this time. I have been out to TX once and he has come home once since he reported back. Every time I say goodbye I get stuck in this rut for about a week and I'm just sad for that whole time. I've cried more since he's been home then the whole time he was deployed. We are able to talk all the time and text all through out the day, at night we get on skype so we can see each other and play games and have that extra interaction, where when he was in Iraq I would sometimes go days with out talking to him. Has anyone else experienced this? I don't know if its because he's so close, yet so far, or what. I just want him back so badly and I miss him so much its overwhelming sometimes. __________________

10-17-2009, 12:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
luckylucy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 156 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 23% Longevity: 3%	When Nathan graduated from the Academy he had his 60 day leave, and he spent in in GA. I didn't see him for oh, a month and a half, and I delt with that just fine. Then, he came back for IFS. He was here for a month and just left again. I'm having a horrible time with it. I think it's just that your just more in love with him, he means that much more to you and it's harder to have him away. That's how I feel, I just think we got so much closer in the past three months than we ever were when he was at the Academy. Distance does make the heart grow fonder. __________________

10-17-2009, 04:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
BubMunkeyBles MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Me- Tampa, FL, DH- Aviano AB Italy Posts: 6,550 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 85% Longevity: 29%	I think its normal. You know he's within reaching point. You aren't allowed to go to Iraq... but you can go to Texas KWIM? __________________ Stephanie

10-17-2009, 04:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
Del solve problems with a little time and lots of vodka Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Seattle Posts: 9,230 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 80% Longevity: 48%	I went through that. DB wasn't deployed nearly as long, but once he was back and we were still LDR, it really ate at me for the first few months. After a while though, I was able to get back into the routine a bit. So hang in there! __________________ BrentsCrystal=fabulous!

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10-16-2009, 09:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
pinkpolkadots Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,305 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 45% Longevity: 16%	Yes I've experienced this. Sometimes when they are far away and you know you won't be able to talk to them, you reconcile that with yourself and go about your routine. THEN, when they are still far away, but you can talk WHENEVER you want, it suddenly makes the distance feel unbearable. I don't know what to tell you other than, for me, it got better after while. It ebs and flows, but that's the thing with any LDR.