Could this be leading to a heartbreak???

[pbandjhappy]

My Eric left to training (yup it's just the beginning for us) and my emotions are going wild!!! on one hand its like i would never give him up for anything and he's everything i ever wanted. but on the other hand i feel that if he gets deployed it will be so hard for both of us and the fact that were away for soo long from each other will just bring problems. plus, i don't even know when he'll be deployed and how often. i'm in a nomads land now cuz there is no way i'm ending it with him but i just want to feel like i'm doing the right think and be able to be comfortable and not soooo worried with our relashionship so i can just be there for him cuz he'll need it. please post if you feel the same or have some advice to ease my worrying!

[misskathee]

sometimes deployments make you stronger, and the distance makes you guys appreciate each other. it's just like any other relationship though, they all have problems.



and welcome to MSOS

[~Mia~]

i couldn't agree more with the previous poster. We've had our ups and downs, but the distance has definitely strengthened our relationship and our communication with each other.



hang in there, PM me if you need anything

[Streif-wife]

[Fidzy]

There are positives that comes from being separated, too. Separations make you stronger, more independent and make you appreciate each other more. The best thing to do is to get on the same page in terms of your expectations, communicate and make sure to still keep each other as a priority. It can be overwhelm to think about, but it's not all doom and gloom, I promise.

[lilygirl0415]

It depends on your relationship now. Are you fair fighters? Do you trust eachother? Do you feel that you can be true to eachother over the course of a deployment (or several others)?

If you can answer yes to these, then no, I don't think you're heading for heartbreak.

It's not easy, but it's definitely survivable... and alot of times, it will make you even stronger.

PM me if you want to talk.

[*Larz*]

Originally Posted by Fidzy There are positives that comes from being separated, too. Separations make you stronger, more independent and make you appreciate each other more. The best thing to do is to get on the same page in terms of your expectations, communicate and make sure to still keep each other as a priority. It can be overwhelm to think about, but it's not all doom and gloom, I promise.

[his_dorkfish]

Originally Posted by pbandjhappy My Eric left to training (yup it's just the beginning for us) and my emotions are going wild!!! on one hand its like i would never give him up for anything and he's everything i ever wanted. but on the other hand i feel that if he gets deployed it will be so hard for both of us and the fact that were away for soo long from each other will just bring problems. plus, i don't even know when he'll be deployed and how often. i'm in a nomads land now cuz there is no way i'm ending it with him but i just want to feel like i'm doing the right think and be able to be comfortable and not soooo worried with our relashionship so i can just be there for him cuz he'll need it. please post if you feel the same or have some advice to ease my worrying!

Its never easy, but you learn a deeper appreciation for eachother. Thats one of the great things about being on here is these ladies also make that distance easier.

None of us ever know when our guy will leave till it get to that point. Just learn not to ever plan to far ahead because chances are the military will find a way to change them for you. You also find out there is another definition for Surprise! like Surprise Im deploying. Surprise I have to go to the field for training this week. but there is also the good ones like Surprise I got to come home earily and surprise Deployment was postponed. You just learn to take the good with the bad.

LDR's can be just as fun and it kindof lets you work on the creative side of things. Just think of all the fun stuff you can stuff into a box to send to him to let him know you care and then realize the box wont shut unless you have someone sit on it. You learn to love it. Just think later in life when your sitting there with your grandchildren talking about "you and grandpa" you'll have letters to share from when you were apart.

[MarineWife0929]

For us, we are horrible together lol. Deployments and separations (i.e. training) are flippin awesome for us! No, really, separations have made things a lot easier for later when we are home together.