Does anyone fear ...? - Long Distance Love

afljwall · 10-13-2009, 10:14 AM

Is it just me or does anyone else out there fear that your DB, DF, DH will come back different? I worry that's I'm going to get a letter or go see him during graduation weekend and he's going tell him "this is going to be too hard, too much trouble, too far away ... ect ..." Can anyone relate to these fears? Anyone have any stories/advice about dealing with these fears?

evil_genius · 10-13-2009, 10:20 AM

I was afraid of that, however, the army mostly changed DF for the better. He's more responsible, has more clear goals, and he has a way better appreciation for the things he loves.

Try thinking positively about it.

Am · 10-13-2009, 10:23 AM

Don't post duplicate threads. If you look at the top blue bar of the page, there's a button that says "new posts". That's what most people use when reading the forum. They all pop up there.

As for your question, everyone fears that because it's a reasonable outcome. Communicate openly, deal with your problems as they come, and trust each other. That'll help you stay close even when it seems impossible.

Missing you.... · 10-14-2009, 11:44 PM

Im in that situation DH is afraid the military life and marriage wont work..... but were going to give it a shot!

navybride11 · 10-14-2009, 11:50 PM

df is only in maryland right now and i havent seen him for a month and 13 days and im wondering if he is still going to love me the same way i mean he still says he does and all but im just worried hes going to find another girl down there =/

star_yamzy15 · 10-15-2009, 05:16 AM

I'm scared of the same thing. My DB is going to Germany this November, and I'm scared that we won't be able to communicate right because of the time differences and our schedules. I'm even more scared that he might cheat on me. I had a LDR before, and it went bad. I don't want to go through that road again.

~Mia~ · 10-15-2009, 08:50 AM

I was just as scared when DB left for basic, but he wrote me letters and they'd make me feel better. Then when i found out he was headed to Germany, i got really nervous, but he's reassured me in so many ways.

Keep it positive hon, and PM anytime ya know i'm here

Mrz. Robinson · 10-15-2009, 08:52 AM

Im kinda scared when DH comes back from this deployment he will have major issues like he did when he came back from Iraq

clsmarathon · 10-15-2009, 09:02 AM

I have to say no. We've been doing this for so long that we both feel very secure. It wasn't always that way, though. When we were dating, I broke up with DH (DB then) after one deployment in order to date other people. We obviously ended up back together, but DH was worried about how things were going to go in his next deployment. So I guess it was more him than me with the worry. . .

M&M121 · 10-15-2009, 09:04 AM

I have the same fear. I've been cheated on in a previous relationship & its one of my fears for my DB's upcoming deployment. I have this thought in my head that he'll change his mind while he's there. It helps when he reassures me, but the reassurance has to come from myself, I've realized.

10-13-2009, 10:14 AM	#1 (permalink)
afljwall My other half is in Texas!! Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Greensboro, NC Posts: 264 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 25% Longevity: 3%	Does anyone fear ...? Is it just me or does anyone else out there fear that your DB, DF, DH will come back different? I worry that's I'm going to get a letter or go see him during graduation weekend and he's going tell him "this is going to be too hard, too much trouble, too far away ... ect ..." Can anyone relate to these fears? Anyone have any stories/advice about dealing with these fears? __________________ "I'll be back soon babe, I promise!! I love you!!" - DB [11\|16\|07]

10-13-2009, 10:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
evil_genius Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Illinois Posts: 75 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 11% Longevity: 3%	I was afraid of that, however, the army mostly changed DF for the better. He's more responsible, has more clear goals, and he has a way better appreciation for the things he loves. Try thinking positively about it. __________________

10-13-2009, 10:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
Am CarolinaHokie Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: VA/NC Posts: 12,796 Classifieds: (1) Activity: 94% Longevity: 28%	Don't post duplicate threads. If you look at the top blue bar of the page, there's a button that says "new posts". That's what most people use when reading the forum. They all pop up there. As for your question, everyone fears that because it's a reasonable outcome. Communicate openly, deal with your problems as they come, and trust each other. That'll help you stay close even when it seems impossible. __________________

10-14-2009, 11:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
navybride11 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: windber pa Posts: 277 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 2%	df is only in maryland right now and i havent seen him for a month and 13 days and im wondering if he is still going to love me the same way i mean he still says he does and all but im just worried hes going to find another girl down there =/ __________________

10-15-2009, 08:50 AM	#7 (permalink)
~Mia~ wanting him here... Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Me: KY Him: Germany Posts: 534 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 41% Longevity: 6%	I was just as scared when DB left for basic, but he wrote me letters and they'd make me feel better. Then when i found out he was headed to Germany, i got really nervous, but he's reassured me in so many ways. Keep it positive hon, and PM anytime ya know i'm here __________________ LDL Pal to jasonsangel & meganeliz20 Wifey to submarinerslady, drobisbaby08 and SgtLinnell'sGirl HE'S HOME! HE'S HOME!

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10-14-2009, 11:44 PM	#4 (permalink)
Missing you.... Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Hawaii Posts: 92 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 17% Longevity: 11%	Im in that situation DH is afraid the military life and marriage wont work..... but were going to give it a shot!

10-15-2009, 05:16 AM	#6 (permalink)
star_yamzy15 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Posts: 238 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 45% Longevity: 1%	I'm scared of the same thing. My DB is going to Germany this November, and I'm scared that we won't be able to communicate right because of the time differences and our schedules. I'm even more scared that he might cheat on me. I had a LDR before, and it went bad. I don't want to go through that road again.

10-15-2009, 08:52 AM	#8 (permalink)
Mrz. Robinson LIVING IN GERMANY AND LOVING EVERY MINUTE OF IT Join Date: May 2009 Location: VILSECK GERMANY Posts: 1,797 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 94% Longevity: 9%	Im kinda scared when DH comes back from this deployment he will have major issues like he did when he came back from Iraq __________________ He said will you be MINE 4eva Of Course I Replied YES!!

10-15-2009, 09:02 AM	#9 (permalink)
clsmarathon Senior Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 2,560 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 45% Longevity: 8%	I have to say no. We've been doing this for so long that we both feel very secure. It wasn't always that way, though. When we were dating, I broke up with DH (DB then) after one deployment in order to date other people. We obviously ended up back together, but DH was worried about how things were going to go in his next deployment. So I guess it was more him than me with the worry. . .

10-15-2009, 09:04 AM	#10 (permalink)
M&M121 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Posts: 21 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 13% Longevity: 1%	I have the same fear. I've been cheated on in a previous relationship & its one of my fears for my DB's upcoming deployment. I have this thought in my head that he'll change his mind while he's there. It helps when he reassures me, but the reassurance has to come from myself, I've realized. __________________