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star_yamzy15 · 10-15-2009, 04:29 PM

I think you're right. I guess I don't trust myself to trust him. You know what I mean? I get so worried at things. I don't want to break up with him because I don't want to regret in the end that I didn't take the risk. Still, no matter how I try to calm myself, I just can't stop worrying. What should I do? I hate it when I worry so much like this.

bigsismt · 10-21-2009, 09:55 AM

My hubby was at basic and then OCS and gone for about six months before he had a few weeks leave. It was much harder emotionally for me then I had expected it to be when we he was home on leave. I agree with the other posts that the areas DH has changed in are for the good but I can't say it was/is easy. I think your fears are totally legitimate. It took us some time to reconnect again. I guess time apart just does that.

pinkpolkadots · 10-21-2009, 12:22 PM

I felt the same way when DB was in basic, we weren't even officially dating then, just "talking". I was afraid that things wouldn't continue afterwards. Things ended up going really well after basic.

BrittanyAFGF · 10-21-2009, 11:04 PM

I'm still scared of that. My DB is being deployed for the first time in a couple of weeks. I know we will still talk and communicate, but I wonder if what he sees over there will affect the way he acts and feels. I just have to believe in him and us.

Veronica Lin · 10-21-2009, 11:06 PM

DH, DF at the time, and I both had fear that things were going to be different between us when he got back. We had been together 3 1/2 years non stop and then all of a sudden we came upon our first seperation and it was 6 months long. He flew home and 10 minutes after he was back in my arms it was like he had never left.

I think its normal to have the fear, but dont stress over it.

chasesbabygurl · 10-22-2009, 12:24 AM

I was at first. But when he came back from BCT & AIT, he was changed for the better, and it made everything SO much better.

star_yamzy15 · 10-22-2009, 06:27 PM

I hope it would be like that for us. He never shows how he really feels to me that's why I doubt..

luckylucy · 10-25-2009, 02:47 PM

Our relatinship typically gets stronger after every time we're apart.. but it just get's harder for me to deal with it.
I think it's because I keep falling harder for him ever time.. and I'm a pansy.
I flooded the Atlanta Airport with my tears last July. lol

10-21-2009, 11:04 PM	#14 (permalink)
BrittanyAFGF Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Me:Tennessee Him:Deployed Posts: 206 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 4% Longevity: 6%	I'm still scared of that. My DB is being deployed for the first time in a couple of weeks. I know we will still talk and communicate, but I wonder if what he sees over there will affect the way he acts and feels. I just have to believe in him and us. __________________

10-21-2009, 11:06 PM	#15 (permalink)
Veronica Lin ARNG Wife. Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 2,993 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 16%	DH, DF at the time, and I both had fear that things were going to be different between us when he got back. We had been together 3 1/2 years non stop and then all of a sudden we came upon our first seperation and it was 6 months long. He flew home and 10 minutes after he was back in my arms it was like he had never left. I think its normal to have the fear, but dont stress over it. __________________ [CENTER] Started: 02.19.06 * Engaged: 07.30.08 * Married: 10.17.09

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10-15-2009, 04:29 PM	#11 (permalink)
star_yamzy15 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 509 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 6%	I think you're right. I guess I don't trust myself to trust him. You know what I mean? I get so worried at things. I don't want to break up with him because I don't want to regret in the end that I didn't take the risk. Still, no matter how I try to calm myself, I just can't stop worrying. What should I do? I hate it when I worry so much like this.

10-21-2009, 09:55 AM	#12 (permalink)
bigsismt waiting Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Me:Montana Him:Ft Sill Posts: 215 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 15%	My hubby was at basic and then OCS and gone for about six months before he had a few weeks leave. It was much harder emotionally for me then I had expected it to be when we he was home on leave. I agree with the other posts that the areas DH has changed in are for the good but I can't say it was/is easy. I think your fears are totally legitimate. It took us some time to reconnect again. I guess time apart just does that.

10-21-2009, 12:22 PM	#13 (permalink)
pinkpolkadots Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,409 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 20%	I felt the same way when DB was in basic, we weren't even officially dating then, just "talking". I was afraid that things wouldn't continue afterwards. Things ended up going really well after basic.

10-22-2009, 12:24 AM	#16 (permalink)
chasesbabygurl Account Closed Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: kfdlashfdasl Posts: 1,350 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 8%	I was at first. But when he came back from BCT & AIT, he was changed for the better, and it made everything SO much better.

10-22-2009, 06:27 PM	#17 (permalink)
star_yamzy15 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 509 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 6%	I hope it would be like that for us. He never shows how he really feels to me that's why I doubt..

10-25-2009, 02:47 PM	#18 (permalink)
luckylucy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 451 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 8%	Our relatinship typically gets stronger after every time we're apart.. but it just get's harder for me to deal with it. I think it's because I keep falling harder for him ever time.. and I'm a pansy. I flooded the Atlanta Airport with my tears last July. lol