How do I sleep? - Long Distance Love

luckylucy · 10-11-2009, 08:27 AM

Nathan's been gone 5 days. And I have cried myself to sleep even night since he's left. I miss him holding me at night so bad. I woke up and cried this morning and uhg I feel like such a pansy.
I am just craving a hug from him right now. I want to cuddle.
It gets better.... right?

mare0124 · 10-11-2009, 08:36 AM

bookworm_meg · 10-11-2009, 12:45 PM

yes, hang in there! I find that after the first week or so it's better. You'll definitely have days where you just miss him horribly (as opposed to just missing him a lot), but I think after the first week or so it gets easier. I try and focus on the things I want to get done while he's gone, instead of thinking about how much I miss he were there, if that makes sense....

Solstice · 10-11-2009, 01:14 PM

Personally I think it's all in your mindset. If you don't want to be upset you won't be. My husband has been gone a month now, I haven't cried yet. I miss him, he's my best friend, my only friend really because we are new here and frankly I'm fine with that. I hate when we are apart, I adore him and I also miss him next to me at the end of the day. BUT I refuse to let myself be miserable when we are apart because to me that takes away from our love. I know that that separation will end when it can and in the mean time I owe it to him, to us to continue on in a happy and healthy life and use my alone time to better myself and therefor our life together.

Make up your mind that you are ok, that the separation is only a physical inconvenience and that you are fine. He still loves you and you him, you still talk and email and txt. He is still in your life and with you ... his body just isn't.

IMO grieving, crying and misery is for when someone passes on to another dimension and even then, it's a brief thing because that person I love has gone on to a better place and some day I will join them, when it's my time.

It's all in your mind...you control that.

Hope you feel better soon.

candypants · 10-11-2009, 01:20 PM

Originally Posted by Solstice

Personally I think it's all in your mindset. If you don't want to be upset you won't be. My husband has been gone a month now, I haven't cried yet. I miss him, he's my best friend, my only friend really because we are new here and frankly I'm fine with that. I hate when we are apart, I adore him and I also miss him next to me at the end of the day. BUT I refuse to let myself be miserable when we are apart because to me that takes away from our love. I know that that separation will end when it can and in the mean time I owe it to him, to us to continue on in a happy and healthy life and use my alone time to better myself and therefor our life together.

Make up your mind that you are ok, that the separation is only a physical inconvenience and that you are fine. He still loves you and you him, you still talk and email and txt. He is still in your life and with you ... his body just isn't.

IMO grieving, crying and misery is for when someone passes on to another dimension and even then, it's a brief thing because that person I love has gone on to a better place and some day I will join them, when it's my time.

It's all in your mind...you control that.

Hope you feel better soon.

Totally agree. The more time you spend miserable, the harder it's going to be to live your life. Try to find something to take your mind off it, start working on a care package, call a friend, watch a movie, take a walk, etc. If you spend every waking hour thinking about how much you miss him, you'll drive yourself insane.

pinkpolkadots · 10-11-2009, 02:18 PM

It definitely gets better, I promise! You just have to get used to it and get into your routine.

lildixiemiss · 10-11-2009, 05:59 PM

It does get better.. but you have to be active in making it better. Just be positive. Know that time is on your side and stay busy..this will end soon.

dancerdixy · 10-11-2009, 10:02 PM

yes. it gets a lot better, but only if you let it all out

luckylucy · 10-13-2009, 04:50 PM

You ladies were right, keep busy! The past two days have been a car race and I haven't had time to miss him.
I think it's just when I'm a lone at night that I turn into a basket case. Maybe I should get a puppy to come keep me company at night. lol

lil_sarah88 · 10-17-2009, 04:00 PM

can i ask how long till you get to see him?
and do you have any of his clothes or aftershave or something? like i dont see my DB during the week cause hes down at his base so i have a tshirt of his and spray with his aftershave and sleep in that cause its like hes here. little sad i know but it like hes around and i just think about when i see him how happy i will be and how he doesnt want me to be sad, he doesnt want me to be upset he wants me to enjoy life. So i completely agree with the girls above but it is ok to miss him.

10-11-2009, 08:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
luckylucy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 156 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 23% Longevity: 3%	How do I sleep? Nathan's been gone 5 days. And I have cried myself to sleep even night since he's left. I miss him holding me at night so bad. I woke up and cried this morning and uhg I feel like such a pansy. I am just craving a hug from him right now. I want to cuddle. It gets better.... right? __________________

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Solstice He's My Love Monkey!!!! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Pearl Harbor, HI Posts: 2,948 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 94% Longevity: 6%	Personally I think it's all in your mindset. If you don't want to be upset you won't be. My husband has been gone a month now, I haven't cried yet. I miss him, he's my best friend, my only friend really because we are new here and frankly I'm fine with that. I hate when we are apart, I adore him and I also miss him next to me at the end of the day. BUT I refuse to let myself be miserable when we are apart because to me that takes away from our love. I know that that separation will end when it can and in the mean time I owe it to him, to us to continue on in a happy and healthy life and use my alone time to better myself and therefor our life together. Make up your mind that you are ok, that the separation is only a physical inconvenience and that you are fine. He still loves you and you him, you still talk and email and txt. He is still in your life and with you ... his body just isn't. IMO grieving, crying and misery is for when someone passes on to another dimension and even then, it's a brief thing because that person I love has gone on to a better place and some day I will join them, when it's my time. It's all in your mind...you control that. Hope you feel better soon. __________________

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10-11-2009, 12:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
bookworm_meg Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 322 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 37% Longevity: 3%	yes, hang in there! I find that after the first week or so it's better. You'll definitely have days where you just miss him horribly (as opposed to just missing him a lot), but I think after the first week or so it gets easier. I try and focus on the things I want to get done while he's gone, instead of thinking about how much I miss he were there, if that makes sense....

10-11-2009, 02:18 PM	#6 (permalink)
pinkpolkadots Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,313 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 45% Longevity: 16%	It definitely gets better, I promise! You just have to get used to it and get into your routine.

10-13-2009, 04:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
luckylucy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 156 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 23% Longevity: 3%	You ladies were right, keep busy! The past two days have been a car race and I haven't had time to miss him. I think it's just when I'm a lone at night that I turn into a basket case. Maybe I should get a puppy to come keep me company at night. lol __________________

10-17-2009, 04:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
lil_sarah88 British Army girlfriend Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Derby, UK Posts: 161 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 1%	can i ask how long till you get to see him? and do you have any of his clothes or aftershave or something? like i dont see my DB during the week cause hes down at his base so i have a tshirt of his and spray with his aftershave and sleep in that cause its like hes here. little sad i know but it like hes around and i just think about when i see him how happy i will be and how he doesnt want me to be sad, he doesnt want me to be upset he wants me to enjoy life. So i completely agree with the girls above but it is ok to miss him.