Being distant... - Long Distance Love

Hannah2112 · 10-04-2009, 07:46 PM

DB is at the end of his Airborne training. He goes to SF training this week and he says we cannot communicate for about 40 days. I feel like he has been very distant this weekend and it makes me sad and worried. He just isn't acting the way he usually does. He tells me nothing is wrong, but I feel like there is. We haven't talked at all today and we always talk throughout the day :[ I just get worried so easily now that we are apart. I always think of the worst case scenario. I just get really bothered by the distance at times... I could really use some cheering up right about now

Do any of your SO's ever get this way?

Hope · 10-04-2009, 07:48 PM

Yes. It is hard. We seem to go through periods where we are distant and then we become closer again. As long as the lines of communication remain open and you still tell one another how much you mean to each other, whether it be I Love You or whatever, I feel like it is totally normal.

jttigerbaby · 10-04-2009, 07:55 PM

Oh yah. I learned a long time ago it is because he is busy and things are fine once he gets home. It took me a long time not to take it personally and I still have days where I get irritated about it.

marissaa310 · 10-04-2009, 08:00 PM

Yes, totally normal. Like someone else said, there are waves of being distant and then getting close again. Maybe he is really busy, or tired, or hungry, or just had a bad day.. maybe without realizing it, he's getting prepared to not be able to talk to you for a while..

Don't worry, everything will be okay.

pinkpolkadots · 10-04-2009, 08:09 PM

yes definitely. and you don't always know if they are busy or what is on their mind so you can tend to take it personally. we know how you feel! just try to keep your cool, it really makes things worse if you are freaking out about it!

armygf08 · 10-04-2009, 09:16 PM

Yup...I think everyone gets this way. Everyone has their ups and their down days. Dont worry too much, you need to find it in your heart to trust him. I too sometimes think of the worse case scenario, but I know my DF pretty well and I know that he wouldnt do anything wrong behind my back. Usually after I talk to him when worse case scenario runs through my head, he confirms it was wrong...he usually did something for work lol. Just try to keep yourself busy, I noticed it really helps. I lost my job 6 months ago, and Im not working so the days seem to drag and I think about DF, but if Im busy time flys by and it doesnt seem so bad. I would be annoyed not talking to DF for 40 days, but Ive done it for like 20 before, so I know you can make it!

LilFrankieB · 10-04-2009, 10:48 PM

Totally normal. I feel like DB gets distant when he's really stressed or when he's going through a new experience. It's just a little bit of fear, anxiety, and excitement all rolled into one. If I'm patient, calm, and supportive... he always comes back around.

It'll be ok. Hope he gets back to normal really soon.

10-04-2009, 07:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
Hannah2112 Proud Army Girlfriend Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Grand Rapids, MI Posts: 461 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 24% Longevity: 9%	Being distant... DB is at the end of his Airborne training. He goes to SF training this week and he says we cannot communicate for about 40 days. I feel like he has been very distant this weekend and it makes me sad and worried. He just isn't acting the way he usually does. He tells me nothing is wrong, but I feel like there is. We haven't talked at all today and we always talk throughout the day :[ I just get worried so easily now that we are apart. I always think of the worst case scenario. I just get really bothered by the distance at times... I could really use some cheering up right about now Do any of your SO's ever get this way? __________________ Him: I love you Hannah. From the moment I laid my eyes on you I knew I wanted to marry you. My heart, body, mind, and soul belongs to you. Last edited by Hannah2112; 10-04-2009 at 08:43 PM.

10-04-2009, 07:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
Hope These things make me believe God is a man, after all. Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 1,503 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 47%	Yes. It is hard. We seem to go through periods where we are distant and then we become closer again. As long as the lines of communication remain open and you still tell one another how much you mean to each other, whether it be I Love You or whatever, I feel like it is totally normal. __________________

10-04-2009, 07:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
jttigerbaby Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Fort Hood TX Posts: 627 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 46% Longevity: 4%	Oh yah. I learned a long time ago it is because he is busy and things are fine once he gets home. It took me a long time not to take it personally and I still have days where I get irritated about it. __________________

10-04-2009, 08:00 PM	#4 (permalink)
marissaa310 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Me: RI; Him: GTMO Posts: 436 Classifieds: (4) Activity: 31% Longevity: 15%	Yes, totally normal. Like someone else said, there are waves of being distant and then getting close again. Maybe he is really busy, or tired, or hungry, or just had a bad day.. maybe without realizing it, he's getting prepared to not be able to talk to you for a while.. Don't worry, everything will be okay. __________________ Currently surviving deployment #1.

10-04-2009, 09:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
armygf08 Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Me:CA Him:KS Posts: 1,188 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 1% Longevity: 26%	Yup...I think everyone gets this way. Everyone has their ups and their down days. Dont worry too much, you need to find it in your heart to trust him. I too sometimes think of the worse case scenario, but I know my DF pretty well and I know that he wouldnt do anything wrong behind my back. Usually after I talk to him when worse case scenario runs through my head, he confirms it was wrong...he usually did something for work lol. Just try to keep yourself busy, I noticed it really helps. I lost my job 6 months ago, and Im not working so the days seem to drag and I think about DF, but if Im busy time flys by and it doesnt seem so bad. I would be annoyed not talking to DF for 40 days, but Ive done it for like 20 before, so I know you can make it! __________________ DF: i still think your too good to be with a guy like me but i am thankful everyday that i found you

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10-04-2009, 08:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
pinkpolkadots Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,313 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 45% Longevity: 16%	yes definitely. and you don't always know if they are busy or what is on their mind so you can tend to take it personally. we know how you feel! just try to keep your cool, it really makes things worse if you are freaking out about it!

10-04-2009, 10:48 PM	#7 (permalink)
LilFrankieB ...and so he clipped the wings of the flighty one. Join Date: May 2009 Location: Me: California Him:Texas Posts: 1,080 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 25% Longevity: 8%	Totally normal. I feel like DB gets distant when he's really stressed or when he's going through a new experience. It's just a little bit of fear, anxiety, and excitement all rolled into one. If I'm patient, calm, and supportive... he always comes back around. It'll be ok. Hope he gets back to normal really soon. __________________ AIM: chihuahuachelsae facebook.com/chihuahuachelsae Full Size Me to AFwifey86 Keep . Faith