Boot camp was easier...?

[planetclaire]

I went to DB's graduation pretty recently (which was amazing of course)... and I must say, boot camp FLEW by, I can't believe how fast it went and that it's been so long already. He's at A school now and since I fed-exed him his phone several days ago we've been calling/texting constantly and as much as I love being able to hear his voice/reading his amazingly sweet text messages all day long/sending pictures back and forth.... it's almost like it makes things harder?! I feel like it makes me miss him more, since I can talk to him I'm constantly being reminded of what exactly I'm doing this for. It's bittersweet, I guess. Does anyone else feel this way? I thought it would be so much better and easier and time would go by faster while he was in school but it isn't. I think that I got used to staying busy and keeping my mind on other things more and communication it seems makes it hard to do anything but daydream about him all day. I LOVE all the calls/texts/pics more than anything but they're just making me want to cry right now

[RainierLT87]

You sound like your in that stage. I think we all go through it at the beginning and whenever we are seperated from our DB's after a visit, you love hearing from them after, but it hurts too because you miss them so much. I go through it when I leave DB after visiting, its no fun I know that...but eventually it will get better, you settle into a routine of life, and the LDR becomes a little easier...never completely, but way more easier than it seems right now. Just have faith in yourself, I am sure you are strong enough, just give things some time to cool off and adjust...its something you will quickly master in the game of LDR and military relationships. My PM box is always open if you need to talk (or IM). *hugs*

[OliveJuice]

It's normal sweetie. I'm going though it right now too. It's hard to go out and do stuff when you are constantly wondering if you will get a call from him. It will be ok and you will get past this part of the "stages". Hang in there!

[planetclaire]

thank you guys for the
i hope it gets a little better/easier, i probably just need some more time to get used to him being gone again i'm going to visit him in a few months at least... is it ALWAYS like this for you after you see your SO? every time?


i don't even want to think about how many more times i'm going to have to say goodbye and "re-adjust"

[GatesGirl]

I think the hard part about after boot is not knowing when they will call or text. DF is in tech school and sometimes we talk for awhile and sometimes I get one text for the day. Then after we get off I start missing him again. It's a big tease hearing his voice and not actually seeing him. I would have to say, though, that I enjoy tech school way more than boot.

[planetclaire]

Originally Posted by GatesGirl It's a big tease hearing his voice and not actually seeing him. I would have to say, though, that I enjoy tech school way more than boot.

I agree. I definitely like school better than boot camp too, I just.. kind of underestimated how much I would still miss him... for some silly reason.

[Just_Webby]

I'm going through the same thing. It sucks hearing from them because you want to be with them instead of just on the phone with them. I love the messages, hate the reminder that I can't be there now.

[beloved]

I don't think I'd say either one is harder... they're just different. I totally agree that it is hard to have that constant contact and be thinking of your SO all the time. But at the same time, I like knowing that at the end of the day, even if it's only for a minute, I'll get to hear my DB's voice. It's reassuring.

The hardest part for me is not being able to pin down when/where I'll get to see him next. He promised we'd get to visit over Memorial day, which is awesome, but he hasn't heard back on his leave request yet, so I'm sure whether he can come. But he did mention that if he didn't get leave, I might be able to go out there to visit! That has really helped me to settle down a little more, knowing that it won't be like this forever.

[JessL85]

This is EXACTLY how I am feeling right now. DH is at OSUT and it's 14 weeks. So, for the first 12, I heard from him 3 or 4 times total. Well, they got their phones back on the 26th, so we've been texting all day and he calls after dinner...although he said he thought they'd lose their phones again today cause a bunch of the guys were goofing off and playing pranks on each other and just being juvenile...and seeing as he usually calls around 5:30 and I haven't gotten a text since noon...I'm guessing that's what happened. But anyway, I LOVE hearing from him, but then when a while goes by and I get no text, or, like tonight, I get no phone call, I just feel really crappy! Since I just got so used to it....I get to see him Thursday, and yet I still feel like it's weeks away and I have felt more depressed and missing him these past few days than I have most of these past 14 weeks!

[monica723]

i know how u feel, im going throught that right now too! i hate that im so used to talking to him at a certain time, cause then i feel lk crap when i dont hear from him. but stay strong u can make it through this! pm me if u need to talk