he said he was busy

[CY84]

So my db is in med school through the Navy. He studies like crazy and is super busy. We have seen eachother every weekend (we're only 2 hours apart) since January...but he said he needed to study this weekend for a big test he has on Monday. I was bummed out, but I know things are hard for him.

Yesterday I talked to him for a few minutes, and he admitted that he didn't do any studying yesterday. I guess I just can't understand. I kind of took it as he just needed a break from me. Why did he tell me I couldn't visit if he just sat around and did nothing??? Am I overanalyzing this???

Ugh! Frustrated.

[*MarineBug*]

Maybe he just needed a break from the world I know that this happens with me sometimes. That I just need to get away from everyone and have a break

[Roboto]

He probably just needed a mental health day. No responsibilities or anything, just time to chill out, relax, and do whatever he wanted. I don't think it's that he doesn't want to see you. I think it's that he is uber-stressed and just needed to lay low.

[ArmyCupcake]

Originally Posted by Roboto He probably just needed a mental health day. No responsibilities or anything, just time to chill out, relax, and do whatever he wanted. I don't think it's that he doesn't want to see you. I think it's that he is uber-stressed and just needed to lay low.

totally agree

[ela]

Don't take it personally. Please don't. I'm in a grad school program, so from personal experience I know that sometimes you just need a break.... from everyone and everything for your own sanity. He probably intended to study this weekend, and therefore did not have you visit, but in the end needed some time to just sit around.

I'm sorry you're frustrated though.

[RainierLT87]

Being and avid studier myself, and my roomie's in med school....sometimes we both fully intended and plan on studying all day...but for some reason last minute we just throw our hands in the air, and say screw the books, were taking a day off! Maybe he just had one of the moments, where he intented to study, but just couldn't focus and took a day off. I am sure its not you.

[CY84]

Thanks!

I know I'm spoiled...I'm so lucky to be able to see him so often. It was just a tough weekend.

[sweetvanity]

hey- my DH just finished med school-- through the navy as well! take it from someone who has BTDT in the relationship-- med school sucks. it leaves them mentally exhausted and sometimes he really did just need a day to himself. don't take it too personally. i know that's hard to do.

btw: what year is he? if its first year-- he's just getting himself into everything and this is his chance to try and learn absolutely everything he can. he needs to be in "sponge mode" 24/7. if he doesn't learn this stuff now, he'll be up ****'s creek later on. if he's in upper years, well-- its just gets tougher as you go because people hold you accountable for knowing certain things.

best of luck to you and if you need someone to talk to-- my PM box is always open.

btw: is he going to USUHS in Bethesda or another med school?

[sweetpea03]

Originally Posted by *MarineBug420* Maybe he just needed a break from the world I know that this happens with me sometimes. That I just need to get away from everyone and have a break

The fact that he told you he didn't do any studying I think shows it's not like he's hiding anything. It was probably him just needing a break in general.