Ever feel like it's not enough?

[NavyKat]

Ever have those times when a voice over the phone or a face on skype just isn't enough? today was one of those

DF had a really rough day, that ended with some jerk throwing a big ball of trash around and hitting DF in the face, because he though it would be funny
DF was so pissed but decided to just walk away so he wouldn't do anything to escalate the situation. DF called me immediately and said that two years ago, that would have been enough for him to start a fight. He said he knows walking away was a good decision but he feels like a coward now, like he ran away....
He was so upset and soo angry,
He calmed down and
We talked for 30min, then he went back to study
I feel like I let him down, like I should have been able to do more
Ughh... 3000 miles away and I feel useless

[my.hero's.mrs]

I feel like that everyday. I hate talking on the phone but yet I can't imagine a day going by with out the 2-3 phone calls we make to each other each day. I just want to be there. I see couples walking hand in hand and the thing that keeps me from getting jealous is knowing that this distance I'm enduring and that daily pain and emptiness I feel is confirmation that I'm not taking my love for granted. I love that man more than anything in the world. Not that those couples take their love for granted. It just opens my eyes to the depth of my own feelings in my relationship. Those hugs, kisses, and cuddles mean ten times more the next time I see him than the did the time before.

[Charity]

I know how you feel - when DB sends me emails about being homesick, I tell him how proud I am of him etc...but it never seems enough.

I know that this deployment is almost over....but another one is coming up in six months and it's a hard pill to swallow.

[hgrace]

Everyday. When he sounds happy over the phone, I wish I could be there to share in his joy. I feel like the "Wow!"s and the "Sounds like you had a great day!"s are useless and repetitive.

And when he has a bad day, I feel like all I do is say, "Aww" or "I'm sorry" or "I'm praying for you, it'll get better soon". If I were there physically, it would be so different. Not that I don't appreciate it, I just feel useless.

[Becker's wifey]

i know exactly what you mean. i hate not being able to "be" there for DF, 'specially on those bad days.

[GatesGirl]

Originally Posted by hgbarnes Everyday. When he sounds happy over the phone, I wish I could be there to share in his joy. I feel like the "Wow!"s and the "Sounds like you had a great day!"s are useless and repetitive. And when he has a bad day, I feel like all I do is say, "Aww" or "I'm sorry" or "I'm praying for you, it'll get better soon". If I were there physically, it would be so different. Not that I don't appreciate it, I just feel useless.

that's how i feel. i wish i could share his joy and be there for him when he is stressed. i feel useless sometimes too.

[imasoldierslove]

i know exactly how you feel... i feel the same way EVERY SINGLE DAY. I do everything i can think of to be supportive and understanding... but no matter what it all just feels like so many words... we cant DO anything to change what is... just keep trying to be loving and reassuring... some days better than others but overall.. it does feel so defeating in so many ways... if i wasnt so totally in love with my dh i couldnt do this...

[CAITstoppable]

I know how ya feel. I have days like that too.

[*Genia*]

I have those days too, today sort of was one but it wasnt because it was a bad day for him. They had a picnic for his class and everybody else brought their wives and kids and I wasnt there. I know it made him a little sad.

[Lynnette1990]

I know exactly what you mean. His bad days are the worst cause I know me being there with him would make him feel so much better. Or when he is sick. I feel terrible. Me saying "I hope you feel better" or "If I were there I'd make you soup and take care of you". Well me saying that isn't going to make me be there and thus it's not enough.