A different perspective... - Long Distance Love

Hallie. · 04-22-2009, 05:19 PM

I know I spend a lot of time thinking about the negatives of being in a long distance relationship and I'm sure many of you do too.

But let's flip the coin. What positive experiences and insights have you had from being in a long distance relationship with your SO?

I think a lot of people get very caught up in the physical part of a relationship, but, honestly, I think DF and I are a lot closer BECAUSE we're apart so much. We've talked about so many different things and addressed issues that most people don't bother to talk about until they've been together for years and years. We've only been a couple for about 8 months and only known each other for about 10 and a half, but I know everything about him and he knows everything about me. We've left no stone unturned. He's my best friend and that's mostly because we have no other way to feel close than to talk about any and everything.

And being apart means that we don't take any time that we're together for granted. We make the most of every single moment of time that we have. I find that I value the physical aspect of our relationshp and cherish the moments spent with him a lot more than I would if we weren't apart so much.

What about you guys? What kinds of positive things come from you being in an LDR?

Charity · 04-22-2009, 05:20 PM

I think it makes me appreciate DB much more. It makes me cherish the time we DO spend together. It keeps our lines of communication very open.

Kudos to you for keeping such a positive attitude!

hgrace · 04-22-2009, 05:39 PM

Like OP said, we talk about so much! We have gotten so in tune with being able to tell when the other is upset or happy or frisky or whatever just from the tone of our voice. And there's that "mystery" element that couples who see each other everyday just don't have, and thinking about seeing each other just gives us butterflies similar to the beginning of our relationship a year and a half ago

aura612 · 04-22-2009, 08:48 PM

The communication has gotten so much better! He's opened up emotionally. I think it also makes us appreciate each other and the relationship so much more.

mdrew4 · 04-22-2009, 08:51 PM

We talk way more about things, and in far more depth than most couples I know. We're super close. He's my best friend as well as my boyfriend.

Plus the sex is NEVER boring or routine

RainierLT87 · 04-22-2009, 08:55 PM

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" think a lot of people get very caught up in the physical part of a relationship, but, honestly, I think DF and I are a lot closer BECAUSE we're apart so much. We've talked about so many different things and addressed issues that most people don't bother to talk about until they've been together for years and years. We've only been a couple for about 8 months and only known each other for about 10 and a half, but I know everything about him and he knows everything about me. We've left no stone unturned. He's my best friend and that's mostly because we have no other way to feel close than to talk about any and everything.

And being apart means that we don't take any time that we're together for granted. We make the most of every single moment of time that we have. I find that I value the physical aspect of our relationshp and cherish the moments spent with him a lot more than I would if we weren't apart so much."
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Thats EXACTLY what DB and I tell ppl! So true...wouldn't have it any other way even though it is hard at times. Unconditional love and commitment is what we have, and I agree he's my best friend...and I couldn't ask for more

aura612 · 04-22-2009, 09:04 PM

Oh and it proves that we're some strong *****es!

GatesGirl · 04-22-2009, 09:34 PM

I have emotionally become closer to DF in ways I wouldnt have if we didnt have to sacrifice. We know how to make the most of our time, whether that's over the phone or in person. We dont get hung over the little things that bother us.

Anna*Banana · 04-22-2009, 09:39 PM

One of the best parts about a LDR is that every time I get to see him again, its almost exciting as it was in the beginning of the relationship. It's exciting and new every time

txgirl06 · 04-22-2009, 09:41 PM

I honestly don't think our relationship would be as good if we weren't going through the distance. I never realized how much you appreciate someone when you are apart, and I think I have taken advantage of that in all my past relationships. And ya the communication is way better, and he is sooo much better about opening up and being emotional. As hard as it is, I feel very lucky to be going through this.

04-22-2009, 05:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
Hallie. Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,057 Blog Entries: 4 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 40% Longevity: 19%	A different perspective... I know I spend a lot of time thinking about the negatives of being in a long distance relationship and I'm sure many of you do too. But let's flip the coin. What positive experiences and insights have you had from being in a long distance relationship with your SO? I think a lot of people get very caught up in the physical part of a relationship, but, honestly, I think DF and I are a lot closer BECAUSE we're apart so much. We've talked about so many different things and addressed issues that most people don't bother to talk about until they've been together for years and years. We've only been a couple for about 8 months and only known each other for about 10 and a half, but I know everything about him and he knows everything about me. We've left no stone unturned. He's my best friend and that's mostly because we have no other way to feel close than to talk about any and everything. And being apart means that we don't take any time that we're together for granted. We make the most of every single moment of time that we have. I find that I value the physical aspect of our relationshp and cherish the moments spent with him a lot more than I would if we weren't apart so much. What about you guys? What kinds of positive things come from you being in an LDR?

04-22-2009, 05:20 PM	#2 (permalink)
Charity Surviving Deployment #2 Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Me: St. Louis/Him: Afghanistan Posts: 6,322 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (5) Activity: 45% Longevity: 16%	I think it makes me appreciate DB much more. It makes me cherish the time we DO spend together. It keeps our lines of communication very open. Kudos to you for keeping such a positive attitude! __________________ "There is always a way. When things look like there is no way, there is a way to do the impossible, to survive the impossible. There is always a way. If I can offer one piece of advice; today, if you become frightened, instead, become inspired." -Grey's Anatomy I my wifeys Solstice and Mrs. Ninkumpoop!

04-22-2009, 05:39 PM	#3 (permalink)
hgrace Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Lake City, Colorado (although home is Mississippi) Posts: 1,505 Blog Entries: 2 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 0% Longevity: 21%	Like OP said, we talk about so much! We have gotten so in tune with being able to tell when the other is upset or happy or frisky or whatever just from the tone of our voice. And there's that "mystery" element that couples who see each other everyday just don't have, and thinking about seeing each other just gives us butterflies similar to the beginning of our relationship a year and a half ago __________________ what a day to visit seattle, what a day for san francisco. what a day, holy toledo! what a day to get in the air and go. what a day to give up smoking, what day to absorb jim beam and what a day to welcome a baby to begin breathing. ~ greg laswell

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aura612 Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Me: Boston, MA Him: Ft. Riley, KS Posts: 835 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 18% Longevity: 19%	The communication has gotten so much better! He's opened up emotionally. I think it also makes us appreciate each other and the relationship so much more. __________________ Proud wifey of NDGuardFiance23, LukesLilTrooper, AmberLu and Ana1221

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mdrew4 I'm his biscuit Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: SF Bay Area, CA (me) BAMC (him) Posts: 2,361 Blog Entries: 1 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 28% Longevity: 16%	We talk way more about things, and in far more depth than most couples I know. We're super close. He's my best friend as well as my boyfriend. Plus the sex is NEVER boring or routine __________________

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04-22-2009, 08:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
RainierLT87 Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Me: Cleveland, OH Posts: 160 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 2% Longevity: 10%	[QUOTE=AFSweetie9608;4990248] " think a lot of people get very caught up in the physical part of a relationship, but, honestly, I think DF and I are a lot closer BECAUSE we're apart so much. We've talked about so many different things and addressed issues that most people don't bother to talk about until they've been together for years and years. We've only been a couple for about 8 months and only known each other for about 10 and a half, but I know everything about him and he knows everything about me. We've left no stone unturned. He's my best friend and that's mostly because we have no other way to feel close than to talk about any and everything. And being apart means that we don't take any time that we're together for granted. We make the most of every single moment of time that we have. I find that I value the physical aspect of our relationshp and cherish the moments spent with him a lot more than I would if we weren't apart so much." QUOTE] Quote thing isn't working sorry. Thats EXACTLY what DB and I tell ppl! So true...wouldn't have it any other way even though it is hard at times. Unconditional love and commitment is what we have, and I agree he's my best friend...and I couldn't ask for more

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aura612 Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Me: Boston, MA Him: Ft. Riley, KS Posts: 835 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 18% Longevity: 19%	Oh and it proves that we're some strong ***es! __________________ Proud wifey of NDGuardFiance23, LukesLilTrooper, AmberLu and Ana1221**

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GatesGirl I'm Forever Yours, Faithfully Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: ME: Bellingham, WA, HIM: Spangdahlem AB, Germany Posts: 4,610 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 82% Longevity: 17%	I have emotionally become closer to DF in ways I wouldnt have if we didnt have to sacrifice. We know how to make the most of our time, whether that's over the phone or in person. We dont get hung over the little things that bother us. __________________ My is in Germany Wifey to Britt Shea, Ana1221, and Airforcegirl87

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Anna*Banana Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: FINALLY together in Philly :) Posts: 1,683 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 16% Longevity: 30%	One of the best parts about a LDR is that every time I get to see him again, its almost exciting as it was in the beginning of the relationship. It's exciting and new every time __________________ Anna and Matt Cardellino

04-22-2009, 09:41 PM	#10 (permalink)
txgirl06 Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Austin, Texas Posts: 560 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 5% Longevity: 13%	I honestly don't think our relationship would be as good if we weren't going through the distance. I never realized how much you appreciate someone when you are apart, and I think I have taken advantage of that in all my past relationships. And ya the communication is way better, and he is sooo much better about opening up and being emotional. As hard as it is, I feel very lucky to be going through this. __________________ "I may not get to see you as often as I like. I may not get to hold you in my arms all through the night. But deep in my heart I truly know, you're the one that I love, and I can't let you go."