It bothers me so much when...

[Melanie.]

People grill me on my long distance relationship! "How do you make it work?" "How can you stand him to be so far away?" "You're not REALLY in a relationship because you're not physically together." "You're technically single." "How do you get your needs met?" "How does HE get his needs met?"

I can go on and on.

I try to not let it bother me but it does bug me to a point. My mom even told me once that I was technically single, and I stopped talking went all serious and was like "No...TECHNICALLY I'm NOT." She got the point. She wasn't trying to be mean I just don't think she understand the level of commitment it does take to have a long distance relationship - especially a long term one.

To answer the questions: We make it work by communicating, by talking as often as possible and being honest with each other. I HATE that he's so far away with every fiber of my being but that's the way it is and has to be for now so I deal with it. Yes I am in a relationship even if we're physically apart, it's all emotional/mental for me and he doesn't have to be here for that. I get my needs met by modifying my needs to suit the situation and I don't sweat the lack of physical stuff, in the grand scheme of things it isn't that big of a deal honestly. He does the same thing.

Well I guess I have the first vent on the new forum? Anybody else have anything that really bugs you when people talk about your LDR?

[GatesGirl]

I know what you mean! People get all caught up in the physcial part of relationships, but forget about the mental/emotional part, which really is the most important.

[hgrace]

I just look at them and say, "I can't imagine being with anybody else. If it means waiting for him while he's 4000 miles away, so be it." They just kind of shut up and go hang out with their boyfriends in front of me. So is life.

[sosojenn]

All that really matters is that I love him and he loves me.....everything else that comes with the relationship is icing on the cake.

[Melanie.]

Originally Posted by sosojenn All that really matters is that I love him and he loves me.....everything else that comes with the relationship is icing on the cake.

Well put!

[RainierLT87]

People are always struggling understanding the commitment and devotion it takes to make a LDR work. I think alot of times its stronger than the traditional physical based relationship, because you learn them from the inside out. Each moment you are physically together is a HUGE gift and you remember each and every detail. My friends DB once said to me (they are in a traditional relationship)..."you know more about your DB and I know about said friend, and we see each other more!" I take that as a complement . Though its hard, and I wish everyday he was here...DB and I agree we wouldn't trade the world for it, we have learned so much and it has made us into who we are today.

[Eliz :)]

What bugs me is hearing that "I don't really know DB because we don't live in the same city." Or I don't really know what a real relationship is because it is ldr. I'm so sick of hearing that! What do you gusy say back when you hear it?

[RayK]

I get this quite a lot and I just tell them that I am more committed than I have ever been and that I love him with all my heart and that I have NEVER been LESS single

[llove12]

Beomg om a LDR is way more work than living together IMO. I guess others that haven't done it just can't understand.

[SarahElizabeth]

Most of the time I get, "Wow, you are so patient. I don't know how you do it." And my response usually is that people don't know what they're capable of until they're put in a certain situation.