Do you do this?

[my.hero's.mrs]

This morning I woke up to DH's call (like most mornings) and he said he wanted to take a nap, so I took that as an opportunity to go for a walk/jog. He asked me to wake him up in an hour.

Well once the hour came, he texted me to tell me he was going to a friend's house for dinner and that he'd be home around 9pm. He sleeps every night at 9pm. So in my mind, that meant no talking to DH today.

I try really hard to be happy for him that he is staying busy and making new friends (he just got to Italy last Wednesday) but I'm sick of the distance! I have no job since I spent last year traveling back and forth to Germany to see him and am currently awaiting command sponsorship to Italy. So all I really have to look forward to everyday is talking to him and my MSOS ladies.

I cried this morning when I called him after the text. I tried to be mad at him even but I can't. That's not fair to him. Just because I'm miserable here and all of my friends work during the day, doesn't mean its his job to keep me company all day. He has to have a life too.

But do any of you ladies do this? Wait all day to talk to him and then just feel a huge amount of disappointment when you don't get to?

[Shantell12]

Originally Posted by my.hero's.mrs This morning I woke up to DH's call (like most mornings) and he said he wanted to take a nap, so I took that as an opportunity to go for a walk/jog. He asked me to wake him up in an hour. Well once the hour came, he texted me to tell me he was going to a friend's house for dinner and that he'd be home around 9pm. He sleeps every night at 9pm. So in my mind, that meant no talking to DH today. I try really hard to be happy for him that he is staying busy and making new friends (he just got to Italy last Wednesday) but I'm sick of the distance! I have no job since I spent last year traveling back and forth to Germany to see him and am currently awaiting command sponsorship to Italy. So all I really have to look forward to everyday is talking to him and my MSOS ladies. I cried this morning when I called him after the text. I tried to be mad at him even but I can't. That's not fair to him. Just because I'm miserable here and all of my friends work during the day, doesn't mean its his job to keep me company all day. He has to have a life too. But do any of you ladies do this? Wait all day to talk to him and then just feel a huge amount of disappointment when you don't get to?

Yes many times and I feel bad but at the same time its like a major downer cause I get all worked out and then its like he doesnt even care to talk to me. Usually not the case but I over analyze things anyway

[HeatherBear]

I do that a lot. I always feel horrible when I do. Josh used to go out with his friends and he'd call me to say goodnight. I always wanted to tell him about my day, and he was too tired to talk. I always felt bad keeping him on the phone when he was tired...I know how you feel

Keep your chin up! And PM me if you want to talk. I'm here for you!

[beloved]

That's been rough for me too, but I got a reality check the other day. I was having what I thought was the worst day of my life, and I was SO upset that DB couldn't talk to me. But he sent me a really sweet note telling me that it was hard on him too, because he had wanted to be able to talk to me and be encouraging/supportive.

What gets me through those days is knowing that he's not trying to avoid me, he's just a busy guy. Don't worry, you'll get time eventually! Look forward to that.

[*kristen.f*]

I think it's totally normal to act that way. Being apart from eachother is hard no matter how much work you have to keep you pre-occupied. I currently have classes, homework, and organizations to keep me busy but it doesn't make a lack of communication between me and DB any easier. Hopefully you can get your command sponsorship soon so that you two can be together again.

[my.hero's.mrs]

Thank you for your encouragement ladies. I've felt like the biggest baby ever since DH's leave ended 1.5 weeks ago. I guess we all get to have our moments to whine though, right?

[CCArmyWife]

I get to feeling that way too. I spend all day taking care of DS, and all I want to do at night is talk to DH. Then he sends me a text saying he is going to watch a movie, or play pool. I just have to remind myself that he was at work/school all day and he needs his break at night. I am so glad this training is only a few more months.

[PeppermintRei]

I did it all the time. I finally talked to him about it and expressed how I was feeling and now he is a lot better about ensuring that we do talk for at least 15-30 minutes after he gets home.

I may get flamed for this and I'll step out on a limb, but it is your right to expect him to talk to you and spend time with you. You've sacrificed a lot for him and he needs to do some sacrificing for you. Even my DH agrees with me about that, it took him 3 years but he finally understood that it's not all about him.

I couldn't help but get a little upset and feel left out when he was off running around with his friends somewhere and got to go do something without me. Especially when he knew I was waiting for him and he just up and decided to do something else without saying something to me first.

Talk to him about it. It's a tough road you've chosen, he's intelligent enough to learn, but he just doesn't get it yet. He will though, just be honest and open with him about how you're feeling. Oh and give it time. Lots of time.

[Anna*Banana]

I've totally been there. I think it goes both ways too, sometimes DF wants to talk to me and I'm not around and sometimes I'm looking forward to talking to DF and he isn't available.
It sucks

[ily.mmw]

When DH and I were long distance, I felt like that a lot. It was horrible. I agree with the other ladies, talk to him about it.. tell him how you feel.

I did that with DH and things did improve. We had a mutual understanding of each others' expectations/needs/wants and we tried our best to work around it.