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    I hate trying to break up with people

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    I've been seeing a guy for about a month. Kept it on the DL because I wasn't sure how I felt, and I decided to break it off today and he is being persistent and it's making me feel like crap. My feelings for him just weren't growing at all, and he seems have fallen for me quite a bit. I wish I was feeling it though. Now I just feel guilty.
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    yeah been there done that. I felt so bad and guilty that I let him talk me into maybe trying to work things out. thankfully I went out of town and didn't talk to him at all and when I got back he said he could tell I wasn't interested and he shouldn't have tried to make me "work it out"



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    If your feelings were not growing, you did the best thing for the both of you. I hope he realizes soon that you were sparing him from any further heartbreak
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    I hate it too, although I hate being dumped more

    Seriously though, im sorry . I'm sure it's worse like that, the guys I always broke it off with got pissed and talked shit so it always made me feel justified.
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    He keeps saying stuff like "This doesn't feel right" and blah blah. It was obvious he really liked me. When we kissed goodbye last night I started thinking about exDB and missing him-- I can't tell him that, but that's definitely a sign I needed to end it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lilinkgirl View Post
    If your feelings were not growing, you did the best thing for the both of you. I hope he realizes soon that you were sparing him from any further heartbreak
    i agree

    ive broken up with a couple guys before because i just wasn't feeling it. its a horrible feeling
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    I'm sure he has friends telling him that you are just confused, that you need time, that you really don't want to break up with him etc etc.
    just be firm and final, and none of this "we can still be friends" stuff.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Guynavywife View Post
    I'm sure he has friends telling him that you are just confused, that you need time, that you really don't want to break up with him etc etc.
    just be firm and final, and none of this "we can still be friends" stuff.
    Completely agree with the above. It sucks to have to do it, but you don't want to give him false hope.
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    We only went one like six dates. I think he's taking this too hard.
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    You shouldn't feel bad. And if you guys only went on like 6 dates, yeah, this shouldn't be much more than a blip on the radar for him. Then again, after 6 dates with my DH I think I knew he was the one LOL (but the feeling was mutual). Really though, would he prefer for you to lead him on and drag things out longer? I'm guessing not. I'm sorry you're feeling bad.
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