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    Update** I really don't know what to do.

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    This is an update on my situation right now.

    It's hard to explain the entire situation. He knows that he's wrong. He's spent all week telling me so. He says this is the biggest wakeup call and it's made him realize more about himself than just our relationship. I'm going to go see a therapist to help me deal with the way this has affected me as well as other aspects of my life. He's going to see one to deal with his life and the reasons he did this, as well as the reasons he uses alcohol to deal with his emotions.

    We are staying engaged to avoid all the family drama and having to explain it to everyone. However, we are putting our wedding on hold until we get all of this sorted out. We are planning to do the individual counseling for a while until the personal issues are fixed. Depending on how that all goes. We might move in together in Texas so that we can see a couples counselor to strengthen our relationship and fix everything completely.

    I'm taking all of this day by day and am not really holding my breath. I think if he follows through with all of this we can fix it. If we both want it and give everything for it, I know us, and I know we can make it and it will make us stronger as long as he follows through.

    Thank you everyone for being here for support. I hope this works out and I don't have to come back and tell all of you that he is a scumbag that will never change.
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    Hope things work out for the two of you! glad your both taking steps to move forward and help your relationship
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    It sounds like you have a plan to address your situation.

    How will this work on a day to day basis?
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    happy to hear you've made a plan to help your relationship!
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    i really hope everything works out for you guys
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    Hope everything works out for ya'll hon!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lychee View Post
    It sounds like you have a plan to address your situation.

    How will this work on a day to day basis?
    That's a really good question. It seems odd but we do have pretty good communication. I think we both need to take more time at the end of our day to really talk about the day and how everything is going. Most of the time we talk at night, it's just kind of a run down of the day and then we just talk about random things. And just continuing to have good communication during the day.


    Also, I really can't thank all of you enough for all of the support and hugs!
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    Your plan sounds like a good one. I hope he can do his best and you both can get past this.



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    I really hope everything works out for you! You seem to have a good plan thus far, so I hope it works.

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